I'm just over it!

[Kellie_Sabrina]

I just want to say that I am very hurt at the moment!

This topic won't make much sense without you read my last posted topic, but many read it, so you should know what is going on btwn my boyfriend & I with my leaving soon & all...

As most of you know, I decided to see him (my boyfriend, Hunter) one last time to say good bye this Monday. He is leaving this Wed for one week to go to Wisconsin with his best friend (Chad) to help him get adjusted. And I am leaving the 12th of June. Again, as most of you know.

Well... we have been talking less & less lately (b/c of him, not me!). I don't feel like Hunter is exactly distancing himself from me, but he is definitely acting differently. He has been wanting to see me... wanting to see me... but, yet in the past couple of days especially, conversations have been REALLY limited. He is always too busy with his friends to even talk for a few minutes. It's hard to go through ALL the details, but I have just been left to feel kind of like just an extra person lately.

I am by no means, one of these jealous/clingy girlfriends, not in the least! I'm all about some space in relationships. I realize that his friend is leaving to live far away, but he is going with him for a week! I am leaving for good & he can't come with me! I don't want to sound selfish, but I need a little attention too. He is just making me feel... second best (to all of his friends, not just Chad!)... Or like I am not that important.

I would just like an attempt to have a real, even if minimal, conversation. We didn't even have a conversation at all yesterday! He texted me last night at 12:30saying, "Are you alseep? If you are good night & sweet dreams."

Well, I WASN'T asleep, but I WASN'T about to be trying to talk to him at 12:30 at night when he had all day, or the day before even. I take that back, I probably would have talked to him. I would've taken what I could get... but NOT with him asking if I was asleep, & well good night either way! That was simply, "Well, I can say I talked to you so I can sleep tonight.", kind of thing. It's understandable to ask if I am asleep, but that last part was the kicker, & the point of me just breaking. If I wasn't leaving soon too, it would be different. That's just not the case, b/c I AM leaving. My days are even more limited with him than Chad's are!

He is making this a little easier for me to just get over it. I just feel like nothing to him. He will talk to me when it is convenient for him... I should just accept that. Uh... no! I'm not exactly "mad" at him... I just am feeling non-deserving of even a, "Good morning, have a good day!" or "I am doing (this) with my friend(s) today, but I will talk to you soon."!

I am to the conclusion (I can sometimes be stubborn), I will just tell him today that I don't think Monday is a good idea. And that I will definitely tell him good bye before I leave, maybe like the day before... But that we should go ahead & break up now. He is leaving with Chad for a week, I better not even think I will get to talk to him in that week!!!! So he will get back from that week with Chad, & then within another week I will be leaving FOR GOOD! So I will just maybe go by his house the day before leaving & say good bye. I won't be bitter or ugly when I see him. I will be mature about it & give him a proper good bye to remember. I don't want to leave on bad terms at all.

I just feel real inadequate & a little ignored.

[bluestrattos]

i know your previous situation, and the present situation it's not very good, althoough, like you said and well, is making you things easy to forget him.

Could it be possible is trying to forget you in the worst kind of way? Avoiding all the way? After all, he never talk with you all day, and the only contact he makes it's after hours, where the odds of you both have a small talk is very small.

Text him or try to talk to him, saying if it's this way he wants to end everything between you both.

[Kellie_Sabrina]

Could it be possible is trying to forget you in the worst kind of way? Avoiding all the way? After all, he never talk with you all day, and the only contact he makes it's after hours, where the odds of you both have a small talk is very small.

I wondered this b/c when we first started dating (& me leaving was not just a couple of weeks away), he acted differently. Chad wanted him to come to his apartment one night b/c he has a place of his own & he was bored that night. So he called Hunter wanting them to hang out. Chad got pretty upset when Hunter told him that he was going to spend the night with me. (The thing is Chad has liked me all along, but I wen't for Hunter when I met him. I just never was fully attracted to Chad. So I think he is jealous somewhat of Hunter's relationship with me... you just have to know the story! I've gotten phone calls from Chad wanting to know why I didn't like him & I liked Hunter so much.)

Text him or try to talk to him, saying if it's this way he wants to end everything between you both.

I don't know what his reasoning is for this change in behavior... & I am afraid he will feel like I am trying to take him away from his time with friends, & that I am just being bossy. I stand by what I said about just telling him that Monday's not a good idea, & that I will see him (once more) before I leave.

[Kellie_Sabrina]

I just got a TEXT from Hunter saying, "Hey sexy! What's up? I am at work. What are you doing?" He had to be at work at 5... but he waited until he was at work & had to sneak in the bathroom to text me, instead of texting this morning or before 5! I SWEAR!

Should I just text him back & tell him about the change of plans for Monday, or what? Should I break up with him now? I'm so frustrated!

[vashti]

He is acting like a 16 year old, which shouldn't be surprising since he is 16. You are expecting too much from him.

I think you should stop obsessing about this relationship and start thinking about the rest of your life. You are taking a huge step forward, and he is not going with you.

[bugmenot]

I might be wrong, but maybe thinking about you is too much, he knows he must say goodbye, and if he truly loves you it will tear him apart. maybe he's just trying to cope