Well, my girl is off to college and I am at my own college. I could go to the college she is going to but she says she doesn't want me to because I would distract her. She wouldn't be able to get her work done if I were there with her. Yet, shes in a sorority now, has gone to at least 8 parties(in 2 weeks) and stays up all night with here friends. Now do you think shes really doesn't want me there because she "need to concentrate" or shes just wants things not to work out between us?
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14-09-06, 10:24 AM #1
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Need her diistance?
If you truly love some one, Then you can never stop loving them.....You just have to learn how to live without them....
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14-09-06, 10:28 AM #2
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I think she wants to have the full college experience, and that is hard to do with a boyfriend.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
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14-09-06, 11:28 AM #3
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That includes ****ing.
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14-09-06, 12:05 PM #4
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that would be the college experience. Originally Posted by Zarathu
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14-09-06, 02:20 PM #5
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Josh, why did you let your girlfriend decide what college you should go to? IMO, you have bigger problems than her social life.
I think you should start looking toward a new future that doesn't include her, because it won't be long before you grow apart and she breaks up with you. Sorry, but it's what I think.
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17-09-06, 11:23 AM #6
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Why do people base these things off statistics. Shes not that kinda girl. "****ing" isn't a priority to her. And she never said she wanted the "college experience" She said she wanted to be able to concentrate on her school work. She doesn't need anymore distractions. And why would I look for a future with out here, just because in most cases, people don't make it? Thats really ****ing stupid just to give up because others failed to make it. Not all people think about nothing but sex. In fact, thats the last thing on her mind. Shes a Christin girl. And no not a small one, A big believer in the bible, I am talking, non sexual contact until marriage. If you watch porn you go to hell. Stuff like that. If its not gods way, then its not "the" way. Get what I am saying? If it goes against the bible, she wont do it. She doesn't drink, smoke, or have sex. She doesn't party or go to clubs. She thinks only sluts go to clubs. I guess shes just different then most people. She doesn't go to college for the party's or the next unlike some other dip-shits. Shes going for the education. TO be a dentist. Sorry but she doesn't have the money just to bullshit her education off a good time. Shes there for the education. So I guess no one help out on this ?. But then again,It was just a question. Not a problem that is there. Shes right though. Not many people have good values like she does. No religion=no morales. You don't follow by one of them,then you don't follow at all.
If you truly love some one, Then you can never stop loving them.....You just have to learn how to live without them....
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17-09-06, 11:51 AM #7
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You sayin' I'm without morals then buddy? Originally Posted by SonyGamer1987
There's more to morals then silly scripture and "god's word".
Morals only exist through action.
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17-09-06, 09:15 PM #8
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I think this quote would be more accurate.. Originally Posted by SonyGamer1987
ha.. ok, i'm sorry, it's besides the point anyway.
I don't get it, first you say she went to all these parties, then you say she doesn't go to parties. eh? what am I missing?
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17-09-06, 11:20 PM #9
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if you love her, just give her freedom and let her decide what is the best thing in her life...
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17-09-06, 11:48 PM #10
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If you really know this girl so well, then why are you going on to an internet site to ask questions about what is on her mind? Originally Posted by SonyGamer1987
Anyway, since I am the one who posted that she might want the full college experience, I will also point out that I didn't say anything about sex, although sorority girls are generally NOT the pious little girls you wish to believe they are.
And you are wrong about the no religion = no morals. In fact, I would venture to say that there are plenty of "religious" people who are utterly lacking in morals.Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
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*cough* naive *cough* you did in fact say in your opening remarks that she joined a sorority and goes to parties regularly. chances are, if she's in college and goes to a lot of parties, she's drinking. Originally Posted by SonyGamer1987
People are bastard coated bastards with bastard filling
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19-09-06, 01:51 AM #12
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Thats why I let her go off to that college. And I asked her if she wanted to be with me still. She says"You have nothing to worry about baby" By the way, the guy who said"If shes going to parties,Then she's probably drinking" Well, shes not. Hates alcohol. On top of that I didn't mean like home parties, I ment like out in the club parties. Where shit is supervised. And who ever said "If I know the girl so much then why I am I asking this question on the INTERNET" Its because I wanted to see what other people would think on this subject. Nothing more. Anything anyone said wasn't gonna make me change my mind at all. I just wanted to see how people would react to something like this. Didn't know I would get such shitty answers though. Sorry but you cant base "Love" or "College" off any statics. Who cares if a shit load of people go to college for parties alone. Doesn't mean everyone does. Its just people stereotyping the college environment. Nothing more. Originally Posted by buddylove
If you truly love some one, Then you can never stop loving them.....You just have to learn how to live without them....
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23-09-06, 08:45 AM #13
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alright, ok, so she doesn't drink or have sex. You have to admit, from your first post this wasn't really evident. It doesn't seem like cheating is something you have to worry about. It's more just that with the distance, you might just gradually grow apart.
She reminds me of me.. (except for religion). I don't drink, I don't party, I want to concentrate on college work. And I also wouldn't really want my bf at college with me. I mean, I would, of course, but it wouldn't be good for me, or us;
let me explain that. I'm kinda a dependent person- the baby in the family. If I moved from home to college and my bf was there, I'd jump right from being dependent on my family to being dependent on him.
And love isn't defined by needing someone so much you couldn't function without them. It's deeply wanting them, even though you could learn to do without them. That way, you're 'choosing' to be with them, not being forced to, or just drifting along with no free will.
so my reason why I wouldn't hypothetically want my bf at the same college as me is because I want to do my own growing and learning and become an independent person, not just be all needy and latch onto him for the wrong reasons.
The first year of college was my first time living away from home. Now that I can see all the new first years come in, I'm reminded of how much I've learned at college, both for my studies and in myself; And how much I love him not because he happens to be around and it's just convenient that way, but because I love him as a person and I want to be with him despite the obstacles.
Plus, if he was here, we'd get no work done
(seriously though, i'm not kidding, I'd be distracted in a purely physical way too. we'd probably be making out at the back of history lectures for hours instead of taking notes, and such.)
of course, her reason may be entirely different from mine. For all we know, she's just stringing you along till she finds someone else, or wants to break it off but doesn't know how, and she's thinking "damnit, I even went to the far away college and he still wont let go!" or whatever. You can never really literally see inside a persons head, so talk to her.
So.. there are lots of opinions on what you should do now. Break off with her and throw yourself into the.. "college experience"? Is this an experience you would regret not having, or is it not really your thing anyway?
Or remain committed to her and hope she will do the same? There are of course true stories of couples going to different colleges and remaining together across that distance. The odds are against you, but then again, if everyone gave up just like that, there'd be none of those stories.
In the end, it is up to you. I recommend you think reeeely carefully about what you want, what the sacrifices and risks are for you and if they're worth it for you.
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""Didn't know I would get such shitty answers though""
You came here for a different opinion on whats going on..
Why do you get angry when the opinions are not what you want to hear?
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As an atheist I agree. Originally Posted by Frasbee
As far as the whole space thing goes, sometimes an orange is just an orange, meaning maybe she really just wants to concentrate on her studies.
Something I learned-
When you start to get paranoid and imagine that she's cheating on you or something just because she didn't (for instance) call you back .Stop. Before you go off half cocked ask yourself - could this be something totally diffrent( maybe she had to study late and couldn't phone or something)
If you're serious about her then trust her, but do remember long distance relationships are hard. I've recently messed one up really badly, so I should know.
Best of luck to you!
