is it important to say it??

[eyedin]

hi i joined this forum just to ask this question, its been bothering me for a while now.
i've been going out with this girl for about 4 months now, things cannot possibly be any better. ive never liked any girl as much as i like her, and i think she knows that and feels the same way.
but my problem is that i havent officially told her i love her, i've never said it to her, at first i didnt think it was that big of a deal then i told my friend and he flipped out knowing how much i really like her.
so ive arranged so many occasions to finally tell her but i just chicken out, i cant do it.
whats wrong with me?? is it my subconcious stopping me from saying it? or is it fear of the i love you return?? please help, how important is it for you ladies to hear it???

[Kiechi]

You don't really love her. It's just your penis talking. Don't fall for it.

[vashti]

Some girls find it very important, others don't. How old are you?

BTW - my husband never needed to tell me; I knew he did without him saying so. I think he admitted it when my sister flat-out asked him if he loved me.

[ThatFire1908]

Well I think it's important to hear my man say he loves me. He doesn't have to say it all the time, but every now and then doesn't hurt. But what's most important is him showing me how much he loves me by his actions.

[eyedin]

im 20 and she is 3 months older than me.
and yea i know she knows that i love her, i really dont think i NEED to say it. but i thought i might be wrong.

[vashti]

Why don't you start smaller. Try "I think I am falling in love with you".

[Junket]

I would say the most important thing to do is to continue to show her how you feel.

Hold off on sayin' anything yet.

I think many people make the mistake of (not suggest this is your case) feeling all they need to do is say it. Seems like a lot of marriages end up that way. Either they say it, or take it for granted. People often forget the importance of a gesture.

[Moonbaseone]

I think if you really love her it is nice for her to hear it every so often from you. I think everyone likes to hear it, even if and when you do know that the person does love you.

[Gigabitch]

In my opinion, it matters. Don't say it often. Don't say it if you don't mean it. If you DO love her, say it soon.

[Taranee]

how important is it for you ladies to hear it???

Extremely important! Tell her. She has probably waited her entire life just to hear these words from... YOU!

[Mathias]

Don't say it often.

This is key.

[Gigabitch]

Don't say it if you don't mean it.

........and this is paramount.

[Junket]

Taranee is clearly a romantic.

Anyway, besides the key and paramount points made.

It is vital that one backs up their words with action.

Action Action Action.

I can't stress it enough, but that enough for now.

[Gigabitch]

Taranee is clearly a romantic.

Anyway, besides the key and paramount points made.

It is vital that one backs up their words with action.

Action Action Action.

I can't stress it enough, but that enough for now.

Oooh, I like action too. Hmmmmm. Too bad my bf is 1200 miles away. Some action sounds good right about now...

[jurupa]

I would say the most important thing to do is to continue to show her how you feel.

I agree. Actions usually speak lounder than words. Ya in this case just hearing something like "I love you" does more, but doing things that express it or show it also gets the message accross.