How do you stop this?

[Ellynn]

ok, i had a problem but i figured out how to work thru it. Thanx anyways!

[elNatural]

Think about the pain you would feel if you got together with him one night and then he realized he wanted to stay with his LD relationship and left you out in the cold. Know you dont want that and focus on it. Also think about how you would feel if everyone found out you slept with the professor. One easy way to do it is to write down why you think you have a crush on him, like which aspects you find attractive. Then write down and figure what the consequences would be for each of those aspects. If you need help thinking about consequences post the reasons ur attracted to him and we can give ideas.

[Ellynn]

Thanx for responding!

[anachronistic]

ellynn, do guys often find you attactive?

i didnt have a girlfriend for a few years, i know how you you feel right now, and i met my girlfriend. it was just friends at first, but it turned into a really deep relationship. love comes unexpectedly

[Ellynn]

I don't know if guys find me attractive or not. I mean I've had offers in the past yr but nothing I really was interested in pursuing. Of course the stuff I want to pursue its like impossible for anything to happen. Sighs...i hate this.

But your right, I should think of how I could get hurt. Plus, If i was his gf, I wouldnt want no other girl coming inbetween the two of us. So basically I should just let him be happy and leave it at that.

[Gigabitch]

You need to get yourself going in another direction. Winter break is right around the corner- you'll probably be invited to some parties. Go to them, even if you normally wouldn't. You need to meet somebody more appropriate (read: single).

[Gigabitch]

Aegis is single.

[Gigabitch]

Barbarian.

[Prodigal]

Hey Ellynn,

The whole loneliness thing is really tough... I think we all know how it is. I don't really know how to get over a crush... for me, I just notice that after a certain time, I see them again and I notice the feelings are gone. I know you're already doing this but I'd try to focus on other things. Winter break is generally a time to enjoy yourself and relax, right? Do some hobbies you enjoy, or spend time with friends. That's what I always do... it doesn't always help. I mean, sometimes even the best friends ever can't help. And I know that when I go somewhere I really enjoy, sometimes I just wish I could share it with some special girl.

That's the advice I have for you... it bugs me that all of these really great people have trouble finding someone... I know that there's something great in store for you though, people like you are way too good to end up alone.

[Ellynn]

Thanx guys again. Your right. I need to find something else to distract me. There is a cute guy at my work who is single. Hmmm..I should find out more bout him. Now hes tall, dark, handsome, 26, and is a respiratory therapist.

Thanx prodigal and everyone else!

[Gigabitch]

Yes! Let's foster that.... your homework- tell us something good about him you notice tomorrow.

[Ellynn]

Yes! Let's foster that.... your homework- tell us something good about him you notice tomorrow.

Which guy? the guy at school, i don't see tomorrow. The guy at work, I may or may not see him tomorrow. But, with me working more with my break starting, I probably will see him more. I will have to get to know him a bit better. (I found out this other info about him because a patient thought him and I would make a cute couple.) (they brought it up, not me.)

[Mathias]

I don't know if guys find me attractive or not.

Of course they do.

Now buck up and go grab one.

[vashti]

Ellynn!! You deleted your original post before I could read it! Have you been hanging out with Aegis? He is SUCH a bad influence!

[Ellynn]

Ellynn!! You deleted your original post before I could read it! Have you been hanging out with Aegis? He is SUCH a bad influence!

Eh, Im kinda paranoid about anyone reading that. I mean all you have to do is google my name. Don't want too much stuff to leak out. Plus, you would have probably slapped some sense into me as the others have. Just been feeling lonely w/ the holidays and finding myself with a crush on the wrong types of people in my life.

Sorry bout that.