Everything's perfect - but for the sex

[clynn]

Yah, you gotta get your hands beneath the belt long, long, long before you ever think about sex.

Start by patting her bum!

But I think think that whether or not she is asexual, there is always the possibility that she may be less sexual than you. Or it could just be the shy scared virgin thing.

The main thing is whether you want to wait to find out

I was a scared virgin (took me a year and a half with my first boyfriend before we had sex). But even then I always had a sex drive! We were "fooling around" for a long time before we had sex. I was nervous at first when he started touching me down there - but I liked it..... and being slow and gentle with low expectations helps!

[Mel]

Slow and gentle might work. Still, if she isn't ready, I wouldn't push it.

[Love Angel]

how would you know? you never tried.

[Tiay]

Start by patting her bum!

yup. Seriously. this sounds bad, but you really just have to gradually get below the belt, starting as gradually as possible.

But I think think that whether or not she is asexual, there is always the possibility that she may be less sexual than you. Or it could just be the shy scared virgin thing.

yup. you can't really know yet. She may never have as strong a drive as you- or she may be a beast once unleashed!

The main thing is whether you want to wait to find out

yup.

I was a scared virgin (took me a year and a half with my first boyfriend before we had sex). But even then I always had a sex drive! We were "fooling around" for a long time before we had sex. I was nervous at first when he started touching me down there - but I liked it..... and being slow and gentle with low expectations helps!

yup, you're like me. I was horny- but too shy to actually be touched down there. And you know, he did the right thing; didn't mention sex, just started going there slowly and gradually in increments. I was too shy to actually ask for it, so he just kept going as far as I'd let him, which was a bit more each time. There's a fine line between doing this in a bad, pressurising way, and in a good gradual way, though

[Mel]

He treated you good then, right, mate?

[Love Angel]

HÉ, it sounds like..