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    What should I do??

    Two years ago I got very drunk and slept with a male friend of mine. Things were a bit awkward afterwards but I went back to uni and he got a gf so that was that. I haven't seen him since.
    His gf recently dumped him and I've started talking to him a lot both over the internet and through text messages. The thing is I really really fancy him but I don't know what to do as he is 6 years older than me and I don't know how he feels.
    He is a really nice guy and we talk online for hours and hours. With me being away at uni, I haven't had a chance to see him in person.
    I was just wondering what people think I should do. Should I leave him alone or say something to him?
    My mates all say go for it but with the distance and age gap I'm not sure.
    Some help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! XxX

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    You consider someone who takes advantage of someone else who is drunk a nice guy?
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    What do you have to lose? Are you willing to lose contact with him completely if he's not into you? Is the chance at having him in your life worth the risk?
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Great OV!!! View Post
    You consider someone who takes advantage of someone else who is drunk a nice guy?
    How did he take advantage? She claimed she was "very drunk", for all we know so could he. Her recent interest in him anyways refutes your notion.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eurasian View Post
    Her recent interest in him anyways refutes your notion.
    No, it doesn't. If a girl found her rapist attractive in the court room and was interested would it make his rape ok?
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Great OV!!! View Post
    No, it doesn't. If a girl found her rapist attractive in the court room and was interested would it make his rape ok?
    A girl wouldn't find her "rapist" attractive in the first place. Also, argue your point from the information that has been given. Don't make up hypothetical scenarios to justify your notion.

    OP --- Would you say your friend took advantage of you that night when you got very drunk?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eurasian View Post
    A girl wouldn't find her "rapist" attractive in the first place. Also, argue your point from the information that has been given. Don't make up hypothetical scenarios to justify your notion.

    OP --- Would you say your friend took advantage of you that night when you got very drunk?
    your doing the same thing though, you assume that maybe it was ok because both were drunk for example. You don't know that either. Personally I prefer to expect the worst then assume the best. Funny thing is that at least I put it as a question, meaning I want to find out the situation by giving her one scenerio.
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Great OV!!! View Post
    your doing the same thing though, you assume that maybe it was ok because both were drunk for example. You don't know that either. Personally I prefer to expect the worst then assume the best. Funny thing is that at least I put it as a question, meaning I want to find out the situation by giving her one scenerio.
    No I don't, but it's a viable assumption to make. Whereas yours, I believe guarantees little truth as theres no reason to suggest advantage was taken of her from her initial post.
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    Are like, all college girls on the pill or something?

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    Just to set the record straight, he didn't take advantage of me. If anything I made the first move on him.

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