BDSM Tips?

[Tiay]

I know what a shoe fetish is. hehe, those people don't need porn sites, they can just get off on zappos.com !

and I didn't say I don't find it odd. I think it's very odd. But surely it's not as disturbing or destructive as pedophilia and sadomasochism.

edit: also, as far as I can see paraphilias don't include most of what 'BDSM' stands for. Why is it that when BDSM comes up, all people can think of is "those sickos who like pain". it's a very misguided viewpoint.

[vashti]

edit: also, as far as I can see paraphilias don't include most of what 'BDSM' stands for. Why is it that when BDSM comes up, all people can think of is "those sickos who like pain".

Hmmm... probably because sadism and masochism - by definition - involve some element of pain, cruelty, and/or humiliation. But hey, whatever rocks your world.

sa·dism(sdzm, sdz-)
n.
1. The deriving of sexual gratification or the tendency to derive sexual gratification from inflicting pain or emotional abuse on others.
2. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from cruelty.
3. Extreme cruelty.


mas·och·ism(ms-kzm)
n.
1. The deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused.
2. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself.
3. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences.

[Tiay]

yeah. But tying someone up isn't SM, it's bondage. Dominance and submission isn't usually about pain either.

Also, by that definition, dirty talking (emotional abuse) is within the realms of masochism.

Someone may like a rough sex or a little dirty talking, or blindfolding, etc, but they'll still say "yeah.. but i'm not into that sick BDSM shit!" when in fact, I believe that most people practice some part of BDSM at some point.

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disclaimer: no, Tiay is not into SM. or dirty talking or spanking or shoes. She does not own a leather body suit. She's just has kinky tendencies

[vashti]

It's probably a matter of where one lies on the scale. People who are willing to actually label themselves BDSMs are likely to be much more extreme than average.

Also, as I believe that article pointed out, people who are really into these fetishes cannot be satisfied by normal sexual activity.

[anachronistic]

you guys are getting into word wars. shut the **** up. some of bsdm or whatever is perophilio and some isn't. end of discussion.

[vashti]

Butt out, youngster.

[Tiay]

yeah, or we'll tie you up...


...oh, well, I sure can be satisfied without kink
though, the OP, as far as I know, has had satisfactory vanilla sex and would still like to try BDSM.

[anachronistic]

Butt out, youngster.

WHY? do you have a butt fetish or something?

*shakes ass in vashti's face*

[zro]

yeah, or we'll tie you up...


...oh, well, I sure can be satisfied without kink
though, the OP, as far as I know, has had satisfactory vanilla sex and would still like to try BDSM.

wow, dont mean to start shit, but what the **** is vanilla sex?? is that some sort of flavoured condoms or something?? if that has something to do with ice cream, that would be a ****ing waste of ice cream, jesus, this is worse than jerry springer

the shoe fetish thing is comical, what the ****?? how can shoes be a ****ing turn on, hahahaha thats just plain retarded

[anachronistic]

i think by vanilla she meant regular plain old sex. putting icecream on your dick would be really really cold.

[zro]

wow, i must be getting ****ing old thats the first time i have heard of sex being referred to as vanilla, must be some sort of new age lingo

[Tiay]

yeah, vanilla is plain, then there's cock chip, raspberry..

[anachronistic]

what about chocolate?

[Tiay]

don't talk to me about chocolate, i'm on a diet!

[anachronistic]

speaking of fetishes, i think i have a german fetish.