Sorry. but i need help.

[Sertraline]

Sorry if this is kinda the wrong place for this topic. I'm just looking for help.

I recently have started gaining interest in a girl that I have only known for about a month now, a little more. But as I get to know her I worry about her more and more. I asked her if she wanted to start dating a little more seriously, but she refused in saying "I am still in love with my ex."

Just a little background, the first night I met this girl she was really intoxicated (alcohol). I slept at her house, in her bed (I like to be the guy that likes to help... so, even though this sounds like bad news, it's not haha) during the night she started to throw up in her sleep. Thank God I was there to flip her on her side. The first time I met her parents, they found me sleeping in her bed. But now, her parents adore me.

Anyway, her ex boyfriend (I think it was 3-6 months ago) used to beat her, he was a horrible boyfriend. I am here to ask if there is anything I can do to help her. I know she has to open her eyes by herself. But, what can I do to help her? Is there anything I should say to her? I mean, I have already told her "I'm here for you" etc etc. Last time she saw her ex, she spent $300 on him because he said he'd be her friend. I don't understand! But that's why I am here. Because I want to understand and I want to help her. I don't know how someone is attracted to someone that they have a restraining order against, but it's possible. Sad

Thanks for all the help.

[Jimmy1218]

oh wow...i have one question: does she have a brain?

[Sertraline]

Although a little rude. Still kinda funny, I don't know what the hell is going on. She can't let go. And it drives me crazy! It's like. she's looking for someone that's going to care for her.. KNOCK KNOCK! I'm right here!!!

[Jimmy1218]

She's blindfolded or something. But I understand some girls gets bossed around and abused, and they still doesn't care. What is wrong with these people?

[foru]

i've ever seen such people around me. Love's sometimes so crazy like this...i think.

[kalupe]

There are a lot of battered women who stay in the relationship, either because they are afraid to leave them or they're blindly in love with those brutes. Unbelievable eh? But yeah, that happens.

I think it's good, at the moment, to just stay with her and be a friend to her like what you're doing now. It usually takes time for someone to really move on from a past relationship, and at least she was honest with you and didn't jump carelessly into another one knowing she hasn't gotten over him yet.

Just give her more time. Soon enough she'll realize how stupid it is to love some guy who treats her like a doormat..or better yet a punching bag.