stuck in the middle

[|BRIT|[L.O.V.E]]

Ok so I know I know this is going to either sound terrible or it's going to sound so dumb, but I don't care. I love this guy, but he might be moving to Oklahoma, but I really really REALLY like this other guy. Maybe even more than I like the guy that might be moving. LOVE LIKE I don't care just someone give me some piece of information. What should I do?

[vashti]

Date them both, but be honest about not being exclusive.

[|BRIT|[L.O.V.E]]

I don't want to date them both.......I want an exclusive relationship, but I don't know what my heart/head is trying to tell me here.

[vashti]

Why do you want to have an exclusive relationship? You can't even decide who you like better. Date them both until you decide.

[|BRIT|[L.O.V.E]]

I'd rather figure out who I liked than do that. I'm not real big on the whole dateing more than one person thing.

[vashti]

Why not? The purpose of dating is to get to know people and to eliminate unsuitable potential partners.

[|BRIT|[L.O.V.E]]

because I feel it's wrong to do that

[vashti]

No, it is wrong to be dishonest about it. If you aren't sleeping with them, and they don't think there is an exclusive arrangement, there isn't a thing in the world wrong with it. In fact, that is the way the adult world dates.

However, if you won't date them, I suppose you could always draw straws.

[Jimmy1218]

Actually it is pretty wrong to do that...if you like the second guy more, then dump the first guy...easy as ****

[|BRIT|[L.O.V.E]]

Yea seems easy enough lol, how in the world would I even go about that?

[Jimmy1218]

Look, you like 2 males, so you gotta choose the one you like more. If you try to have them both, you'll get nothing.

[vashti]

OK, now this thread is making more sense. 16 year olds haven't yet learned about casual dating. In their minds, every relationship has to resemble a marital contract.

Listen, Brit - Just tell both of these guys (assuming they are interested in you) that you don't know them well enough for a committed relationship, but you would like to get to know them better, and can you guys go do something together? Don't have sex. Continue for as long as necessary to determine who you like better, and THEN you can talk about being girlfriend/boyfriend.

[|BRIT|[L.O.V.E]]

well I don't concider what your talking about casual dateing, and being 16 only has so much to do with the situation. i'm not looking for a sexual thing, they don't work. I do like the second guy more, but idk if thats because "you only want what you don't have" or what ever.

[anachronistic]

OK, now this thread is making more sense. 16 year olds haven't yet learned about casual dating. In their minds, every relationship has to resemble a marital contract.

girls that date multiple guys are intimidating to a guy like me.

[Jimmy1218]

I do like the second guy more.

Then wtf is your problem here?