Looking for some ADVICE

[Cleetus]

Ok heres the story, I was dating a girl for over a year. I am 23 she is 20. We come from two very different backgrounds. I come from a modest family where she comes from a family that has a little money. I work full time, she goes to school and didn't have a real job. All her boyfriends before me were real pushovers, did whatever she wanted basically. I am the kind of person who tells it like it is and sometimes that rubs people the wrong way.

So we were doing ok then all of a sudden she starts hanging around her friend all the time and doesn't have any time for me. I deal with it for awhile then finally confront her. She basically says I have never treated her right and she wants a break from me, ok cool with me. So she goes on vacation for a week. She gets back and I start to talk to her again. So she still is indecisive with me. I ask her to meet me face to face to try to work things out. She says she isn't "ready" to see me. So after a few days I pretty much spill my guts to her. Tell her how much she means to me and how I do not want to lose her. So she says since I couldnt give her enough time to clear her head she doesn't want to be with me.

So I go into her myspace and see she is sending messages to some guy sounding like they were going to hook up all the while she was talking to me. She found out I was going in her stuff and now has cut off all communication with me. I still care about the girl. I had good reason to go in her profile because back in April I caught her sending dirty messages to some guy.

So my question is this, does anyone think there is any hope of a reconcilation here or am I just fooling myself? I haven't spoke to her in a few days because I figure she is angry about me going into her stuff. I don't know if i should try to communicate with her eventually or just lay back and play it cool?

[vashti]

She has burned you twice, my friend. Save your dignity and move on. She is going to be nothing but trouble for you, even if you get what you think you want.

(BTW, I don't think you will get her back, anyway).

[runtimeErr]

Don't worry my friend you are in good company. I am in the same position as you. Ex dosen't want me to talk to her and I have tried to call her and tell her she is great and wonderful and I want to be with her ... basicly spill my guys to her.

This is the worst thing you can do. Pretty much what we are doing is rewarding them for treating us like that, not calling and ignoring us. What we have to do is just try to let go, don't call, don't email, ... don't care. Then maybe she will come back and even if she dosen't you haven't had to experience all the abuse that you will recieve if you keep trying to get back together with her. Does this make sence. I know it is hard, I am dealing with it, but you can do it and hey you are ahead of me it has only been one day for me, you have acouple under your belt.

Bottom line if she wants you she will come back and if she doens't good riddence.