Am I Crazy?

[marlasinger]

I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months. And it's going pretty well so far. I live with two of my best friends from high school. We have known eachother for 10 years. My boyfriend comes over whenever he can and sometimes we all hang out or it's just him and I.
Recently, I noticed he mentions one of my roommates a lot more in our conversations. But I can't tell if I'm over reacting or if it's really something I should think about. For instance, we had a few people over the other night and my roommate had her ex boyfriend (who thinks he's badass) over. My boyfriend noticed that and comes up to me and goes "Ohh, so THAT"S the kind of guy she likes". And later he tells me he was watching some guy try to rebound her. Then he tells me he saw her making out with her exboyfriend. When I asked her about this she said that never happened. She would have told me if it did. So I asked him why he said that and he gave me a unclear answer ("Now she's gonna think I gossip").
The other day I was not myself and freaked out and asked him if there was someone else and if there was to leave me alone because I don't want to be with someone who is thinking about someone else.
I'm too nervous to mention my roommates name to him but I don't want to hold this spite against her anymore when it could be for no reason at all.
Am I crazy or is this really legitimate?

[vashti]

This sort of depends on your relationship with both people. My husband has had little crushes over the years on a few of my friends, and even one of my sisters. I don't blame him - they have been beautiful people, both inside and out. However, I know without a doubt that he loves ME, and he isn't the type that is likely to run around. The women I choose to call friends (including my sister) are likewise not the "type" to betray a friend. I trust them all, so I don't have any worries. However, not everyone is trustworthy.

I guess this all comes down to the quality of the people you associate with.

[Gigabitch]

I think you're right, and he has a case of Mention-itis. That doesn't spell doom for you, though, it just indicates that he likes her. Do you trust him? Do you trust her?

If so, I wouldn't bring it up. Identifying her as someone you feel threatened by will only make her more attractive to him. Don't talk trash about her either. Try to casually steer the conversation away from her and hope she starts dating someone soon.

[HopelssRomantic]

If you freak out...it will push him away. you have to trust in both of them or let go of him.

if it gets worse....like he starts hanging out with her over you ect.

then i would defiantly talk to him and tell him how you feel.

[Stirfry]

Trust your intuition, but don't let worry cloud facts.

All you know is that he kept mentioning her. There's really no point in wondering when you can just be honest and ask him what's up with him and her. Don't get upset at all, or this will make it harder for him to say what he is thinking.