Male Ego and Insecurity

[Gigabitch]

Well, I haven't quite put it like that for a while, but the last time we got into something like this, he came back with, "Well, I don't say things like that about you!", which was met with a long, cold stare, and he added, "I guess you don't give me a reason to...".

Tbh, he would flirt with Mother Teresa (yes, even in her present state), if he got some attention for it. It's just when he flirts with the young women that I get threatened.

This is all very new for me. In the past, I've always figured that any man who wandered off was no good anyway. I feel differently about this one. I want to put him on a leash.

[IndiReloaded]

Well, I haven't quite put it like that for a while,

Err... "So what did he say when you told him his flirting with women is hurtful, disrespectful to you & your relationship AND it makes him look like a needy arsehole who can't appreciate a good thing when he's got it?"

Some men require multiple reminders before they begin to get it.

[Gigabitch]

:Sigh: Guess it's out with the rolled-up newspaper, huh?

[Only-virgins]

Women flirt...they are just fun and flirty personalities ....Men flirt...OMG OHNOEZ!

[anachronistic]

What exactly do you mean by flirting?

[Gigabitch]

Good question. I'm actually quite stumped about how to define exactly what my flipping problem is, because I have lots of girlfriends and he is friendly to all of them and it's not a problem.

Okay, I think it's about what happens when the girl, whoever she is, begins to respond in an interested/attracted way and rather than turning it down a bit, he turns it up, escalating the interaction.

Does that make any sense?

[anachronistic]

Slightly. If it were the same thing with your friends, how would it make you feel?

Ever get to the point where the girl is trying to get all over him?

[Gigabitch]

Slightly. If it were the same thing with your friends, how would it make you feel?

Homicidal.

Ever get to the point where the girl is trying to get all over him?

Nope, not lately. Once, a very long time ago, somebody tongue kissed him right in front of me. It still makes me feel kind of sick, actually.

[anachronistic]

Nope, not lately. Once, a very long time ago, somebody tongue kissed him right in front of me. It still makes me feel kind of sick, actually.

Ouch.

That justifies a tee kick to the balls. Was that back during the first time you went out with him or this go around?

Okay, I thought it might have been something that just bothered you if it wasn't a friend, but it's clearly something worse...

hmm... contemplating, contemplating, contemplating...

[Gigabitch]

No, if he flirted with my friends, I would be totally wounded! That would be worse, right? He knows better than that. He knows because I told him flat out.

On Halloween, my crazy sister-in-law came over dressed as a slutty nurse and my brother made a comment that if she didn't put on a sweater, everyone was going to be able to tell how cold it was (because her nipples were all pointy), and my boyfriend said, "That's okay. I read braille. Heh heh."

Later, I told him that both my brother and I thought that was just about disgusting and that he shouldn't encourage my sister-in-law. He was mortified that he had disgusted my brother, but completely dismissed my own part of the complaint.

That pissed me off. I told him, in tears, that if he EVER spoke to another woman like that in front of me again, especially if it happened to be one of my friends, I would make sure he was a sorry as he could be.

I'm getting pissed off again just thinking about it.

[anachronistic]

Aww I'm sorry Giga... damn those stupid jokes that slip out from time to time!

If I was your brother I would've backhanded him! He needs to think before he does... maybe that's what the issue is.

[Gigabitch]

Yeah, I don't think he means to be disrespectful. If he was aware of how it comes out, he'd stop, I'm sure of it.

[vashti]

I thought it was kind of funny in a male ball-scratching kind of way.

::ducks the shoe giga throws::

[Gigabitch]

Well, I agree, actually, except for the fact that it was my brother's wife, and my brother was standing right there, and my sister-in-law was hoping against hope that someone would notice her highbeams....

It was just.... icky all around.

Now give me back my shoe.

[anachronistic]

Wahahaha! Highbeams...

male ball scratching kind of way...