What shall I do to get him back?

[crystalheart]

We were friends for a year, and dated for 6 months. He told me he doesn't have strong feeling to me as I do toward him. Which made him feel very unconfortable. But he still like me and enjoy my accompany. After a long talk, when he left I thank for his accompany for the past year, and told him that it's nice to know him. Which means I am not going to see him, won't hang out with him anymore. He cried. He auctaully cried 4 times during our talk, and of course I cried more then that. He said he feels upset and doesn't want to see me getting hurt. Let's say he is a good package, and I like him. What shall I do? Is there any chance he can come back to me?

[Illusional]

umm... wow that was very brief.. so brief that i dunno what to tell you.

expect.. are you certain that the only reason he doesn't want to be with you is because he doesn't want to see you get hurt and cry?? shit, i told that to my ex's when i didn't want to be with them because i no longer cared for them. i wanted to jump into another relationship.

raverboy

[bloodtippedrose]

Seems like he made it pretty clear that he doesnt want to date you but wants you to be his friend or 'friend with benefits.' He seems like a good guy but I dont think its ever going to be mutual :/

[crystalheart]

Thanks for reply. I do need help here!!

I think the reason he doesn't want to keep this relationship is I was nice to him. He can feel the strong feeling from me which he doesn't have the same. (I am ture he has feeling, but maybe it's not strong enough to give committment) The unbalanced feeling to each other gave him pressures, and he felt uncomfortable, or maybe guilty.

And I don't think he wants friends with benefits. If he can take that, he won't break up with me. (well, I don't know guys, maybe all guys love that??)

He just wrote me an email and said he hope I can keep a room in my heart to allow the friendship between us. And told me that there are still some unsaid feeling from him. It's hard for him to express his feeling. And he said if I am patient, he will voice those feelings to me someday.

I still want him back.

I decided not to see him, maybe just answer his phone, but won't talk to him long, just answer with short sentence. We always hang out with group of his friends every week, and now I am not going to go. I hope he can come back to me. Feel so upset. =((

[bloodtippedrose]

what unsaid feelings -_- You guys had a huge emotional talk and he couldnt say it then? Maybe he just wants to hold on to you incase it doesnt work out with a new broad. The last guy I dated he was completely head over heels for me but I was a little unsure and we dated anyway and it lasted almost a year until we had a mutual breakup, we just werent right for each other. I think it was the right move to cut yourself mostly out of his life because it gives him time to reflect on his real feelings for you instead of spur-of-the-moment feelings