What could u do alone?

[clearskies]

Hi all,
I broke up with a bf after 3 months emails relationship. Getting into other guys may help others suggest , i dont think so... what else could i do? please advise. i am divorced since 4 years and have a little kid. i will be travelling to work at another country to change scenes. will that fill my heart with love of life?
Thanks

[Gigabitch]

Your life sounds interesting. I think you should start writing this stuff down, keeping a journal. This will really help you in six months when you feel you haven't made any progress. You can look back on what you wrote and see that things are really better.

You can do anything you want alone. While they're not usually advertised, there are some real benefits to being single and one of them is that you have absolute control over what direction you want your life to go in. You can make decisions based solely on what's good for you and your kiddo without having to take another adult into consideration.

So, is there anything you've always wanted to do? Maybe you can do it.

[clearskies]

Thank you for your reply. I feel i am lonely and not interested to do anything else. Might be work wrk and work. Before i could not manage between marriage and work. Is it an equation u have to choose either successful home&family or a successful work life?
Is it unbalanced equation, u have to choose from?
What could i do alone, go out watch families and couples while i am like a stupid mum with a 6 years old kid?

[Gigabitch]

Don't you know any other divorced moms? They're a dime a dozen around here. Maybe you just need to make some friends with kids so you can have some company.

I think you need to be sure you're taking your vitamins, too. It's hard being a single parent. There's a lot of pressure and sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves, which is super important because you have GOT to be solid, since it's just you.

What's the last thing you did that was good for yourself?

[clearskies]

that bf who gave me confidence & romance feelings then he appeared to be a prevert & liar. I cant withstand liars or lies.
other than that i keep recalling my ex husband and weep! or work...

[Gigabitch]

Well, then you should learn the lesson in that- getting confidence from a man is a bad idea.

Don't worry. You'll get stronger as time goes by. This is the worst it is going to be, for real. Just try to keep doing positive things for yourself and your kid and for God's sake, don't buy any bullcrap from guys online.

I got really depressed after getting divorced, even though my ex was a chode. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through (so far, anyway). Sometimes it felt like more than I could face just to get out of bed in the morning. It sounds like you're going through the same thing. Is that right?

[clearskies]

thank u for ur support. you r absolutely right , my mistake i trused someone i knew online. I will never do it again.
about my ex i used to love him, he was selfish and dependent, liar and weak character. but i miss my life! we are apart since 4 years but still i yearn for that life that was not good. parents are old and not helpful..sis is a awful, doesnt want to know a divorced sis like me so i am just alone.

[Gigabitch]

Wow. You're really hanging out there in the wind, aren't you?

When I was feeling really horrid and had gotten involved with a bad man on the rebound from my divorce I was too embarrassed to tell my friends about, LoveForum was my salvation. This place helped me through some awfully hard times.

[clearskies]

glad i am still alive... or hanging in the wind as u said... just alone... that is why i subscribed to the forum..looking for good friends.

[Gigabitch]

Well, you'll find all kinds of people here with all kinds of problems. Check out this one:

[url]http://www.loveforum.net/intimate-forum/22133-my-brain-melting-im-about-give-up.html[/url]

[Mish]

what else could i do?

Read - about topics of interest, self improvement, stories which are metaphors for personal experience

Play - sport, mind games, musical instrument, anything else that keeps your mind occupied

Socialize - spend time with friends and family, rekindle old relationships with friends and family, love and be loved

Exercise - run, cycle, walk, go to Gym

Pick an activity - Dedicate yourself to a cause, do something that will make you see yourself in a positive light

[clearskies]

Do i need to see a phsychiatrist? i before failed with anti-depressants. what do u think?

[Mish]

Do i need to see a phsychiatrist? i before failed with anti-depressants. what do u think?

I don't know what your situation is so I don't know.

Do you suffer from depression or something more serious or believe you have some sort of a personality disorder, then yes. If not, some counseling or just socializing to get you into a positive frame may be sufficient.

[IndiReloaded]

Someone near & dear to me is going thru a divorce. Its a tough time. She is coping by working a lot, she also has a part-time job (just for fun) in a busy place where she gets to meet a lot of ppl. They also offer childminding, which helps. Mbe you can find something like this?

She also spends a lot of time going to the gym & with friends. This is on her days off from looking after their child. They share custody.

How old is your child? Is the father at all involved? How are things with your child?

Its a tough thing, single parenting, but lots of women do it & succeed beautifully. But unless you're having problems coping w/your parenting, I don't think you need counselling, you're just going thru some tough times. Happens to all of us.

[clearskies]

Hi,
I have been going thrugh tough bad times since more than 4 years now. My ex is abroad and never supports his son. I work for that and he never asks about him, might be once or twice a year!! What could i do, i am working towards getting a job abroad to change scenery and may i take my son with me who is 6 years... not sure yet will i be able to cope me and him alone in a country i never been to before?
mum and dad dont want to come with me .. i will be as usual alone.