My Options

[Mish]

This thread is an example of why I fear having children or even marriage.

I don't fear it. The way I see it it will either work out or it won't. If it works out great. If it doesn't, well you've learnt something new.

[shh!]

Mish, you are of course entitled to an opinion, but you must realize it is based on nothing... you have no long term (5+ years) relationship experience or children. Your opinions are based on nothing more than emotion.

For the record, the word "relationship" has more definitions than the romantic meaning you attach to it.

[Mish]

Mish, you are of course entitled to an opinion, but you must realize it is based on nothing.

For the record, the word "relationship" has more definitions than the romantic meaning you attach to it.

Yeh, I meant romantic relationship. Sure you can still have a relationship as friends. I agree with that. If my partner wants sexual freedom I don't mind staying friends with her after I'm seperated from her.

[shh!]

I don't know why you are being deliberately obtuse, then. Why don't you just say "I am unwilling to sacrifice my romantic life for the sake of my children"?

[Mish]

I don't know why you are being deliberately obtuse, then. Why don't you just say "I am unwilling to sacrifice my romantic life for the sake of my children"?

That's not how I see it. I see it as:

"I'm unwilling to sacrifice my (future) children's well being by being in a sham marriage with a person who doesn't care about her family"

[shh!]

I definitely see divorce in your future. You are completely unwilling to negotiate a thing. To not care about YOU is not the same thing as not caring about the family.

[Mish]

I definitely see divorce in your future. You are completely unwilling to negotiate a thing.

Ah boo hoo, I see divorce in your future too if you want to get personal over it

To not care about YOU is not the same thing as not caring about the family.

Exactly, this is why I would leave a cheater and continue caring for my kids. If I don't care about my partner, it doesn't mean I don't care about the family.

[shh!]

You are an idiot; that is all.

[Mish]

You're an idiot x 2

[Mish]

Just out of curiousity Vash, what would you do if your husband got a girlfriend that he wouldn't want to leave?

[misombra]

misombra and giga would go over to help chop up their bodies.

[shh!]

Just out of curiousity Vash, what would you do if your husband got a girlfriend that he wouldn't want to leave?

I'd stop sleeping with him, and I would tell him to be discreet until the kids were living independently, because if the kids found out, he wouldn't have to wait for misombra and giga to get him.

[Mish]

I'd stop sleeping with him, and I would tell him to be discreet until the kids were living independently, because if the kids found out, he wouldn't have to wait for misombra and giga to get him.

New relationships require bonding time to fully develope i.e. time away from the family. Also, he would be taking money away from the family to spend on the new girlfirend. You would probably find chunks of money missing from the family account and find him taking days off from the family and dedicate them to his new partner. You still wouldn't leave if that happened?

And what happens after their relationship develops further and they become really intimate and see a future together?

[shh!]

Why do you assume my husband is an idiot who cares more about his love life than the financial security of his family? Anyway, it wouldn't happen. My husband is still crazy about me.

[Mish]

Why do you assume my husband is an idiot who cares more about his love life than the financial security of his family? Anyway, it wouldn't happen. My husband is still crazy about me.

I know he is.

I just wanted to know what you would do in such a situation. Would you stay and see things get worse and worse or choose the same road I would.