Ex back in the picture

[lastwish]

This girl is soo confused right now. She needs to figure out herself whether she wants you or him. I don't think its fair for you to have to suffer through a pretend friendship with her. Its too bad, she lives with you...kicking her out right away seems a bit harsh. Maybe give her a month or so to decide what she wants...if she doesn't want you...tell her to move in with the other guy.

[shh!]

She needs to leave... no question about it. I'm not as nice as lastwish, though. She'd already be gone if I were you.

BTW - I think you did an excellent job handling this the first time around. Good job setting limits.

[misombra]

you guys moved in together right away.

you have to wait a little while for those things. you rush, you **** it all up.

[Mish]

So now we are on what we call a break.
We still live and sleep together. We share everything like before. We support each other we cry together. But we do not kiss or have sex. We both still need each other. but I'm wandering if I should take a firmer approach and ask her to leave again? Or staying by he side could solidify our relationship?

I don't think staying by her side will solidify the relationship, she will just continue having this fantasy over and over again. I think you need to bite the bullet and take her up on her offer to leave you and be with this guy and experience it for herself. Only, if she does that you won't take her back. She's free to leave, but not free to come back. This is what I would say to her.