Is it 'okay' to seek a sex partner if spouse is forever severely disabled/incapable

[bluesummer]

I believe that would be illegal in the US (and honestly, disgusting too). If a person in comatose, they are unable to consent, and having sex with them is called rape. It would be like having sex with a corpse. .

I've heard of comatose women getting pregnant and giving birth while still comatose. That can't be healthy.

And wing... a couple of months is one thing. Many years is quite another. I can't imagine *anyone* running out in the first couple of months to look for sex. I'm talking about a chronic condition, not a temporary one.

Exactly. The way I see it, if I were to somehow land into a permanently vegetative state, I would want my partner to be happy. We're still young, so it would be unfair to expect him to live out his life with just him and his hand. I'd expect him to be there for me, and care for me, but if it was apparent I was never coming back, he can sleep with whoever he wants.

[lesa]

Also, I like to note that the spouse would NOT be sleeping around and having multiple partners. They would only have one companion and that companion may also be in a similar situation.

[IndiReloaded]

Assuming I could discuss this w/my husband, I would. Interesting that noone suggests that simple thing.

Anyway, he would expect me to care for him (as I would him). That's what the vow means. But he wouldn't begrudge me taking a lover, and neither would I him if the situation were reversed, so long as things were discreet & contraception was taken care of.

If your partner went deaf, would you stop listening to music? Would your partner expect you to? I think that's very unreasonable. Marriage is supposed to enrich your life and make you more productive to society, not end your life & close off all options.

[Aegis]

Lesa said in the original post that the spouse said it was okay. I think I'd be a lying, cheating s.o.b. even if they didn't, but she did mention it, which is why I was surprised so many people said no anyway.

[Mish]

^^ This still applies.

And BTW - there is a quote button in the lower right hand corner for use when you aren't referring to the post before yours... Of course, I know you already know this, since in all other cases you have used it when it when you aren't referring to the post immediately above yours or when it may not be clear who you are talking to (but of course not in THIS case). :rolling eyes:

Vash, just get your head out of your ass and get off my case

Don't tell me what and how I should be using, I will reply to whom ever I want, how ever I want to. If you are confused about something, ask for clarification, don't jump into immediate assault unless you want to provoke me.

[Cain]

Vash, just get your head out of your ass and get off my case

Don't tell me what and how I should be using, I will reply to whom ever I want, how ever I want to. If you are confused about something, ask for clarification, don't jump into immediate assault unless you want to provoke me.

You're cute when you're mad.

[Gribble]

I was talking about finding a way of "doing it with her" (Note wide sphere of interpretations of what "doing it" actually is)

Wait, how else can "doing it with her" possibly be construed in the context of this discussion?

[Mish]

Wait, how else can "doing it with her" possibly be construed in the context of this discussion?

Masturbation

"Oral fun"

Games

Toys

Voyarism

Word sex, using nothing but your imagination

The list goes on

Notice I used words "Ill find 'some way' of doing it with her"

[shh!]

He's just defensive because I interpreted his poorly-worded post in an unflattering way.

^^ This still applies.

[Mish]

^^ This still applies.

Yes it does

And if I interpretted your post as you wanting to have sex with toddlers and called you a pedophile, you'd proly be defensive as well.

[anachronistic]

Who cares.

[misombra]

Wait, how else can "doing it with her" possibly be construed in the context of this discussion?

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lHHtTPH8Nkg"]YouTube - LL Cool J - Doin it[/ame]

[Junket]

I'm too young and too male to not have a vagina to put my penis in.

[celine]

they should get divorced..and take care of each other as friends.. as long as they remain married for one day, i think they should be loyal to each other

[Only-virgins]

For better or for worse.