Cain's definition of 'slut' is quite a bit narrower than most ppls. It comes from an obvious fear of being cheated on, probably b/c he was once. So, take that in context and don't be offended.
Sam, I don't think you need to stop being someone's friend just b/c you happen to like each other. However, I do think you are pushing boundaries right now & that should stop. You want more than friendship, at least that's what your behaviour says. She is obviously torn b/t doing the 'right' thing (staying w/her BF) and liking you. But that is her issue to work out.
I happen to agree w/Cain. She shouldn't be w/her BF is she is flirting, kissing, & spending all this time w/you. It IS a kind of cheating, albeit a common & benign sort. She's probably somewhat unhappy w/her BF. I'm guessing she has told you things about her relationship that make her unhappy, am I right?
If so, this is a sign she is ripe for 'stealing' from her BF. Lots of ppl would rather jump into a relationship w/another person first rather than end their current unhappy relationship & deal with whatever personal issues made it unsuccessful. Its immature, but as I said, its not uncommon for her age. Hell, some married ppl get out of marriage the same way so in that sense, age is no barrier to immaturity or stupidity.
Search for a post about 'women, monkeys & branches', that should put things in context for you. Tho really, I should go back and edit that post to include men, b/c they do this too. Anyway, good luck.
Last edited by IndiReloaded; 05-08-08 at 03:58 AM.
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