Pls. Help Me

[bleeding love]

My lover for 6 yrs just dumped me for another girl & it made me hopeless & very ill.We lived together and he committed infidelities several times but still because of my super love for him i always end up giving him another chance.My whole life evolved around him only.I gave up my friends & family coz of him.During those years he was jobless and i was the one who provided him everything..In fairness of him I also felt that he somehow love me anyhow...(maybe he loved me coz he needed me materially)aagh!!!
Last year he landed a job in South Korea (we are fr. the Philippines)...He always calls & even remitted money on my bday as his gift & chatted online regularly till this March,suddenly our communication went off totally that made me literally insane thinking what might have happen to him.
April he called up saying nothing & seems very casual den immediately hanged-up...Miss called 2x in May then no more....TILL the SHOCK of my life when he displayed his PHOTO in messenger with HIS New girl!!!
I was devastated!Crying all night w/o eating.I shouted FOUL!!! How could he!!!Pls advice me on what to do..I wanna kill myself..I cant go on without HIM!Should i write him emails & ask him HOW could he??Its his bday tom & i want to greet him...PLS HELP me!

[miSSleepy]

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[Lipp]

First off, relax, please don't do anything that you will regret. I really hope that you're just using "I wanna kill myself" as an expression, and not as your intention.

How sure are you about that he has a new girlfriend? Is it just the picture, or has he even said it? Just so that you can make sure that it is not a mistake, I suggest that you ask him to tell the truth about who she is. Maybe he will lie, maybe he won't, but I think it's worth the chance, perhaps it will turn she is just a friend or something. It's always good to be sure so that it doesn't end up being a misunderstanding.

As you have experienced he has not been trustworthy in the past, and also he has been dependent on you for financial support. You have accepted him back, and I assume that you have been living together during this time, so that accepting him back has been simpler, even if it might have been the wrong decision after all.
But long distances can strain and ruin even the best of relationships, and it is quite possible that now that he found a job and is no longer reliant on you he has gone away for good. It's a sad thing, and he's a cruel bastard for doing it, but it sounds quite likely.

And if he has truly left you, well, then he sure as hell didn't deserve what you did for him. There is not much that you can do, how about trying to get back in touch with your family and friends? And find someone who truly loves you?

[shh!]

Based on the way you described you relationship, I don't know how it possibly could have been a surprise that he acted like an ass. He's been acting like an ass all along.

You need to learn to pick your men better.

[VLee]

dont't kill yourself or even think about it...its not worth it

it seems as though he wasn't good to you from the start, you let him get away with everything and he walked all over you...he obviously doesn't respect you

you need to find the strength within yourself to realize that he was no good for you and to move on. sure you deserve an explanation from him but don't drive yourself crazy trying to get it. turn to people who you care about for support, you said you sacrificed your friends and family for him...but in the end im sure these people still love you and will be there for you, just ask...but move on from him there are many great men out there