Anyone in same situation or have any suggestion?

[Valhart813]

Hi I am a 22 years old male and have been in a relationship with my first ever girlfriend for over 5 years now. I love her a lot now than ever before; I know this is true because whenever I am not with her I miss her a lot, even if its just for a day or even a few hours, and that I am happy when I am with her. Well whenever we fight its a different story but i think thats normal. However, I find myself looking at other girls and thinking about how my relationship would be like with that girl. I am not talking about every girl that I see, but theres like 2-3 who are friends of mine that I feel this way about. I don't know if this is normal or not, I am afraid that I will be prone to cheat later on if giving an opportunity. I don't know if this feeling is due to the fact that I have never been with anyone else besides her and i am just curious or is it something else. I certainly do not want to be that kind of person because I would never want to hurt the one I love, but this has been happening a lot, and my relationship with my gf is better now than ever before. Is anyone in the same situation?

[lesa]

I WAS in your situation. I think it is normal to feel like that when this is your first and only long-term relationship. If you feel happy and love your partner then I can assure you that, no, your life will not necessarily be better with the other women. You have nothing to compare your relationship to and that is the hardest part and I understand how you feel. Many people have experienced this as well and I thought I would never feel like them but after a 5+ year relationship it will likely happen. Rest assure that another person will NOT be better or great...it will probably be the same or less than what you have now. You will wonder but never act on it...it's NEVER worth it--that is what you must understand..it's never worth it.

Unfortunately that's the best info I can give you at this time for this situation. It's not fair that we find our first relationship to be 'great' but have nothing to compare.

[Valhart813]

You said you were in my situation, so what happened if you don't mind if asking. Did you eventually find something better? You right it is not fair that I have nothing to compare to, but I know that if I throw away a perfectly good relationship and pursue something else, I might regret it, and I will lose something beautiful that I might never have again. Humans..we always want more than what we have. I know my gf must feel the same way since I am just her 2nd bf, her first serious one. I am not sure if it is different for girls or not. I never really talk to her about this topic because its not really a safe one to talk about lol. Well thanks for reading; I really needed to let it out.