So whats the best way to breakup with someone. I've only broken up with a girl once, and that was like 10 years ago. And honestly, I did that over email. I was young and stupid, what can I say? Since then, my relationships have been long term in nature and I've always been the dumpee. I've been seeing this woman for a few months now. Shes a great girl, but I just dont feel this is going to work out long term. I feel its best to end it now, she's already getting pretty attached to me. So what do I do?
Do I go hang out some evening and then before I leave drop the bomb?
Do I call and say we need to talk and that I am going to come over?
Do I just drop by her place with the bad news?
Whats the most gentle way to handle this type of thing?
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03-09-08, 01:01 PM #1
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How to Breakup
"Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way. I can't wait to look in the mirror, cause I get better loking each day. To know me is to love me, I must be a hell of a man. Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can." Mac Davis
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03-09-08, 01:08 PM #2
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Sorry TAVS, but you aren't breaking up with me. I won't have it.
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03-09-08, 01:17 PM #3
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PS telling her "we need to talk" will give her time to prepare herself emotionally... everyone knows they are getting dumped when they hear those words. Be sure to use the "it's not you; it's me" bit.
Why don't you like her?
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03-09-08, 01:21 PM #4
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Yes the "we need to talk" is quite effective. It evokes the panic button straight away so I wouldn't leave too long in between the "we need to talk" and the actual talk.
Just say what you feel and that you don't see it going anywhere. People try to protract things to protect feelings but in the end it only makes things worse.
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03-09-08, 02:14 PM #5
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Another way (I very sadly discovered this technique online many, many years ago) is to say the 'we need to talk' and then become extremely depressing and unsatisfying for them. Don't ever be mean or cruel but become very quiet, less interactive, and depressed-like. Finally you and the gf will breakup in agreement.
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03-09-08, 09:33 PM #6
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I do like her, but I'm sure people can understand, sometimes you can like a person but not feel the spark of a budding relationship.
Originally Posted by shh!
"Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way. I can't wait to look in the mirror, cause I get better loking each day. To know me is to love me, I must be a hell of a man. Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can." Mac Davis
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03-09-08, 11:16 PM #7
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I'm sorry to hear that it's not working out Tavs.
Be honest with her and tell her face to face, tell her the reasons and that you regret that it has to be this way. Afterwards do no contact thing so she can get unattached.Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
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03-09-08, 11:41 PM #8
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Break up with her like a man, man.
Just cut off all contact.God, so atrocious in the Old Testament, so attractive in the New--the Jekyl and Hyde of sacred romance.
-Mark Twain
If people are good only because they fear punishment and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.
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05-09-08, 11:21 AM #9
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I've had my heart broken enough to know how much it hurts. There is a right way and a wrong way to end a relationship and I'm not taking the wrong way just to get an extra mark on my guy card
"Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way. I can't wait to look in the mirror, cause I get better loking each day. To know me is to love me, I must be a hell of a man. Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can." Mac Davis
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05-09-08, 11:22 AM #10
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I respect that...not all us guys are complete douche bags. Originally Posted by TAVS
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