+ Follow This Topic
Results 1 to 5 of 5

Thread: CONFUSED feelings. friend or partner?

  1. #1
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Posts
    2

    CONFUSED feelings. friend or partner?

    okay, im currently on a break with my girlfriend of 5 months, who i have very strong feelings for, compared to anything or anyone i've ever known, (besides parents maybe?) yes, im young, dont have as much experience as some, but this girl is amazing.

    you see, ive known her for maybe 2 years all up, but only started becoming really close less than a year ago. so, the friends thing was set nicely in place. i'd always liked her more than a friend, but was scared. and she liked me more than a friend, just never told me. told everyone else but me.
    and, so, it all came out, we started going out. 4 months in, her dad passes away, this has made her depressed, angry, all the seven stages of grief. anyway, she couldnt handle being in a relationship. her mind's a mess. so we're on a break, and she doesnt know whether she likes me as a friend or more. she says she's confused. we were friends before, she just doesnt know what to do. what advice or. . .just, what can i do? i know i like her more than a friend. im pretty damn sure she does too. i see why it could kind of be confusing. . but. its hard. tips?

  2. #2
    IndiReloaded's Avatar
    IndiReloaded is offline Yawning
    Country:
    Users Country Flag
    "Hot Love Pancake(s)"
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Gender
    Female
    Posts
    15,081
    Trying to build a relationship with someone who just lost a parent is NOT optimal timing.

    Since you were friends first, I would suggest you tell her you care & that you would like to give her time to grieve. That you don't want to add any pressure on her to do with your relationship at this time. Emphasize the caring part and that you are NOT breaking up with her, just giving her the space she needs by supporting her as a friend.

    Leave the ball in her court. She will love you for this if you have something good. Only an asshole would pressure a girl (or guy) when they are going thru a loss like that.
    Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
    --Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Posts
    86
    Sound advice above. Give her some space, time, assure her you're there for her if she needs you through this.

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    48
    Live your life, let her know "you know how to reach me" type of thing, this is her doing not yours.

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    7
    I'd say give her some time to heal. The death clearly shocked her system.

Similar Threads

  1. confused as to her feelings
    By betrayed in forum Ask a Female Forum
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 14-08-09, 09:32 PM
  2. Feelings for Best Friend?
    By pamela975 in forum Love Advice forum
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 07-03-09, 12:24 AM
  3. CONFUSED feelings. friend or partner?
    By chadstone03 in forum Ask a Female Forum
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 29-09-08, 07:05 PM
  4. Confused about her feelings
    By foolinlove in forum Love Advice forum
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 28-05-05, 11:52 AM
  5. Usually how do you turn a friend into a partner?
    By wingshocker in forum Intimate Forum
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 14-07-04, 05:02 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •