Turn girl down because she's too pretty?

[Zilla80]

Have you ever met a girl who is pretty cool, shares similar interests to you, and is absolutely gorgeous - yet not pursue anything further because of the fear she is TOO pretty?

I'm talking model looks, the type of girl you know is going to constantly have guys throw themselves at her. These girls to me usually always signal "trouble".

I'm just wondering what the thoughts were on this subject?

[alter_ego]

well perhaps under some circumstances, if she is too pretty then I would doubt that she would be interested in me, so perhaps I wouldn't bother humiliating my self if there were many others pursuing her.

Finding the woman of your dreams is actually not that hard, getting her to find you is the tricky part.

No I would still have to say no to your question because I would act on it regardless of how slim my chances are. At least if I was attracted to her.

[GrkScorp]

Have you ever met a girl who is pretty cool, shares similar interests to you, and is absolutely gorgeous - yet not pursue anything further because of the fear she is TOO pretty?

The FEAR that she's too pretty? What should one be afraid of exactly?

I'm talking model looks, the type of girl you know is going to constantly have guys throw themselves at her. These girls to me usually always signal "trouble".

"Usually" but.., not "always"..

Absolutely gorgeous model types are.., believe it or not.., the most insecure women on the face of this earth..

Let me repeat that in case it didn't register properly.. Insanely hot women.., are the most insecure women you can hope to come by.., ever..

It doesn't make them bad people.. They just need A LOT of comforting.., reassurance and validation.. Some of them try and get it on their own.., some of them look for it passively through men they are interested in and love..

To an attractive woman.., she's on the top of the mountain.., and it's a long fall down! She has to compete on the level of other insanely gorgeous women.. 10s vs. 10s.. It's brutal.. It's enough to drive anyone insane.. Because of you go out and don't get nearly as much male attention.., you feel ugly and less attractive..

Yes.., it's a legitimate fear that "some" of these women would be self-absorbed and full of themselves.., but most definitely not "all".. In fact.., I'll go a step further and say not even "most"..

It's one of these irrational fears that men have.., that just because she's so good looking.., she must be self-absorbed and full of herself.. And she probably looks down on everyone else as inferior to her.., and that's probably how she's going to look at and treat me.., and I don't want to deal with that.., so fcuk her..

The best way to get over that.., is to pick out two women who you think are absolutely gorgeous.. And just get to know them.. That's it.. Not date.., not have sex.. They're off limits to you.. You're not allowed to do anything even if they call you upstairs and beg you or try and make you feel guilty as they tell you how horny they are and how you're such a bad person for making them suffer like this.. Just get to know them.. Just be friends.., and nothing more..

If you're wrong.., the worst that can happen is that you lose a crazy/psycho/shallow/manipulative/b*tch as a friend.., not really a big loss to you..

If you're right.., the best that can happen is that you dispel this idea you had in your mind up to this point now..

I'm just wondering what the thoughts were on this subject?

Insanely attractive women are the most sexually frustrated women you'll find.. The better looking they are.., the more men are after them.., the more guarded they feel.., the less sex they have..

(side note: there will inevitably be a girl somewhere who just read that and thought to herself.. "aha! If I have less sex.., it means I'm more attractive!")

Anyway.., If you can take the right amount of time that's needed to get over that belief you have about gorgeous women.., you'll be able to explore some very sweet girls out there..

It doesn't change the fact that they're insecure.., they really DO need a lot of comforting.., reassurance and validation.. I personally don't have the patience for that.., and don't have the tolerance for that kind of emotional neediness.. Maybe I will eventually.., but I know that I'm nowhere near that point yet.. But if you think you can handle it.., then keep the option open.., they're not bad people..

[Mish]

I think it's due to thoughts that one is out of her league therefore no action is necessary. I undertsand it makes it more challenging to ask girls like that out, it shouldn't be though. So long as you eliminate from your head the reason for doing so. You can always approach and hang around with anyone for no reason, that's how you should do it with gorgeous women as well. They're just people.

[lesa]

I have to find a guy that is not intimidated by my education. A few men thought I was out of their league, so if being exceedingly beautiful is like that then I understand.

[Mish]

I have to find a guy that is not intimidated by my education. A few men thought I was out of their league, so if being exceedingly beautiful is like that then I understand.

Heh? I thought you already had a guy lesa? (According to recent porn posts anyway) Have you thought that perhaps the reason why there isn't a line of men waiting at your door is because your date status had been unannounced?

[Henry123]

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Absolutely gorgeous model types are.., believe it or not.., the most insecure women on the face of this earth..
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Yeah mentioning a single flaw (wether real or imaginary) I think would devastate her.

[Only-virgins]

Have you ever met a girl who is pretty cool, shares similar interests to you, and is absolutely gorgeous - yet not pursue anything further because of the fear she is TOO pretty?

This is a two part question. First part answer is YES, second part answer is NO.

[lesa]

Heh? I thought you already had a guy lesa? (According to recent porn posts anyway) Have you thought that perhaps the reason why there isn't a line of men waiting at your door is because your date status had been unannounced?

Yeah, I mean before I met my guy. I'm glad I did not announce my dating status after becoming single for the first time. I think I would have become a whore.

I wasn't used to being single hehe.

[Only-virgins]

I think I would have become a whore.

I wasn't used to being single hehe.

That is ****ing weird.

[1averagejoe]

I have once. Didn't think she was interested in me like that and doubt she would have gone out with me. She was WAY out of my league.

Oddly enough I'm not really attracted to the drop dead gorgeous model type. Sure, they're nice to look at. But that's about it. I've noticed a lot of them tend to be very closed and not open to talking to others. Either their stuckup or they think every guy is after them.

I don't know...I still prefer the natural normal looking girl. I would rather be a couple that look good together, not a couple where people question, "how the heck did he get with her?"

[Kromat]

Yeah, I mean before I met my guy. I'm glad I did not announce my dating status after becoming single for the first time. I think I would have become a whore.

I wasn't used to being single hehe.

What is wrong with you women, you have it so much easier than us guys.
You get constant attention, get laid whenever you want, manipulate people to get what u want, and you complain about being single?

Try being single at my age and no relationships yet, you can't even compare.

At least you got to experience to knowwhat it's like, and know what your looking for.

P.S. I do hate being the nice guy, and being treated like shit.
I just think that guys get less credit for what they do, and women seem to think they are better than us all the time.

[agatha]

Your just afraid that she might find a guy who is more (everything) than you.

If that's the case, then force yourself not to like pretty girls.

As what other people said
" Love ugly Betty like, for sure you won't have trouble with it, NO RIVAL either."

[Zilla80]

Oddly enough I'm not really attracted to the drop dead gorgeous model type. Sure, they're nice to look at. But that's about it. I've noticed a lot of them tend to be very closed and not open to talking to others. Either their stuckup or they think every guy is after them.

Well that's the thing about this girl.. she's gorgeous yet acts pretty normal. She talks to fat unattractive guys in our class (no that's not me) and just seems like a cool down to earth girl.

This is a girl I've already been acquainted with for a couple months so there's no out of my league/scared to approach her things going on. She has a boyfriend but seems to have taking a liking to me (in a purely friendly way) and we share the same passion in life.

I've had a mini-crush on her since the first day I met her but just recently was wondering if things didn't work out with her boyfriend and an opportunity was there, would I even go for it or not due to how incredibly attractive she is. I'm pretty sure I would it just seems that the prettier the girl the more trouble.

[GrkScorp]

I have to find a guy that is not intimidated by my education. A few men thought I was out of their league, so if being exceedingly beautiful is like that then I understand.

Education turns me on more than looks.., I'm deadly serious..

I get sexually aroused by intellectual/philosophical conversations and witty remarks..

It's sad you find men who are intimidated by your education.. They probably feel intellectually insecure and the disparity between your formal education and academic achievements is probably too much for them to handle..

Though.., it might also mean they feel they're not accomplished or successful.., or have any potential.. Academic and actual accomplishments are not the same animal.. Someone who is truly accomplished and successful doesn't really feel that intimidated by the success of others.. Especially if you're considering them romantically.., they should be happy for you and proud to be with someone like you..

Try dating MDs.., JDs.., or MBAs.. It's ambitious to try and have a PhD/PhD couple.., but PhDs that don't produce research anyone is really interested in.., or that don't produce well-argued research.., won't get published in prestigious journals.., and will unlikely be tenured at a reputable university.. That's basically a recipe for feeling intellectually insecure.., constantly inferior.., and intimidated by the achievements.., ideas.., success.., or work of others.. They'll have to go on pretending they didn't like the politics in the university setting and "that's why" they chose to leave and work some place else.., which has no politics of course.. They get very creative in trying to cover up and compensate for their academic shortcomings.. They often have an assertive or authoritative tone.. "I pity you" or "I'm proud of you" during dinner or casual conversations are a dead give-away.. An other give-away is going around using their credentials to compensate for their intellectual insecurity.. But when they're dating someone more accomplished.., they can't do that anymore! That's setting yourself up for a lot of arguments and personal attacks.. I wouldn't want to date someone like that anyway.., so it's a good thing they feel intimidated from the beginning.., because it wouldn't likely work out too well..

You could try dating artists.. They're also pretty secure in what they do and don't feel intimidated by your academic success or education.. Artists are usually competitive with other artists.., not medical researchers or PhDs..

Ugh.., you got me really turned on right now..