Need help in a big way

[AndrewL]

Alright well me and my girlfriend are crazy in love. but at the moment it is long distance and is driveing us both literly insane. we had decided to move intogether next year after she finishes school, we were at first planning to get an apartment together near the university she was planning to attend. but then things changed and my cousin offerd me an apprentiship for his multi-million dollar company and offerd me a $20,000 bonus at the end of 2 years for working while im still in highschool.. but theres a catch.. i would have to stay home for the last year of grade 12 rather then go live with my love


I want to live with her and be with her everyday as soon as i can but if i take this deal with my cousin and stay home it will be 2 years with a long distance relationship.. i know we can do it because we love eachother so much but i dont think i want to be away from her for any longer then i have to..


she has promised me she will only stay at the dorm when she has class's scheduled. if she does not have any class's she will take the 2 ferries to be with me every weekend and every holiday.


WHAT should i do stay home and finish grade 12 while getting an extremly huge deal that could make me earn x2 or more the money in my lifetime. or move out and get an apartment with the person i love more then anything in the world?


i know we're young and all but im going crazy i just want to be with her.. i would give up evrything to be with her.. the only thing is she asked me to think about whether or not i want to ignore this deal and come live with her...

any help? from anyone? please

[ecojeanne]

i can see that being with her means 'the world' to you right now. In time that exaggerated feeling will fade. it feels great...you know it's what real love is....it's understandable you are struggling with this choice...i say put your future first and if it's meant to be with this girl then it will come together perfectly later. take the deal, your gf will either understand or get over it. you never know what the future holds but there is PLENTY of time. You have an opportunity offered to you on a plate, these kind of opportunities are few a far between.