what should I do?

[idoubtit]

I was attracted by a guy's appearance, and when I know more about him, I found that we two have totally different attitudes towards life. For example, my priority is to work hard, get a successful career, be rich and well-respected, while his priority is fun, beers, parties, more parties, outdoors, gyms.

Now the physical attraction from my side fades away, but this guy is getting more and more serious with me, what should I do?

I used to complain to him that we spent too little time together, but now I am trying to see him less and less coz I don't wanna waste my time on him. But he doesn't seem to get it. He keeps planning things for us to do together, suggesting parties we should go together, for the future. I am so fed up.

how can I tell him my feeling? I feel so guilty. Never broke up with some guy before like this before.

[IndiReloaded]

Tell him clearly you are tired of parties for social outings. Ask him to suggest something more culturally interesting.

Guys tend to stick with what works. If you've been going out w/him to parties then it makes sense he would continue to ask you to do that. If you start denying him your company b/c its not what you enjoy he will either try something different or give up.

Of course, if you have decided you are simply incompatible, then I would suggest just telling him so. There is no problem with this if you are clear & kind.

[Only-virgins]

Man, I got sick and tired of going out too. Maybe I am just getting old

There is nothing you can do other than to confront him, leave him.

[agatha]

Tell him frankly that you don't want him to have plans for you on parties, etc. That you don't want that someone meddle your life. Tell him offensive words so that he will stop what he's doing.

[miSSleepy]

the only thing you can do is tell him straight out that you don't feel compatible with him for the reason's you told us. You two seem very different and this isn't a good thing for a properly functioning relationship that will go somewhere. Just break it to him, the sooner the better.
Don't make him feel like he's done something wrong, because he probably hasn't. Your interests just aren't the same. Make sure he knows that.

[bluesummer]

Isn't it funny how sometimes the most good looking men become less attractive as you get to know their true personalities, and some men you find less attractive become MORE attractive the more you get to know them?

Anyways, you sound completely incompatible. Like everyone else said, I would voice your concerns with him and go from there. However, I don't think it's very likely he will give up his party-style life to suit your lifestyle choices.