Thoughts on dating women with kids

[vashti]

Zilla - I think you are making a very good decision here, especially given that you don't like kids.

[sixxy]

Women with children have it hard enough, speaking as a mother myself. I feel your pain in making this choice, however it is very complicated dating a woman with a child (children). It just is. Our lives are complicated and when and if we get attached to someone, it makes it harder if they never bothered to ask themselves the same questions I guess most of us are asking you.

What are your intentions?
Are you ready to be in a relationship with a woman who has children?

These are just two questions, there are many more to ask yourself.

Children need guidance. They need love and security, they get that from their mother yes, however if you were to enter that life, its fragile. You can really destroy good things.

So please don't take these words too harshly, but make sure you understand her hands are already full.

[secretlife]

its interesting to see the other perspective.
until now i saw this problem only as a woman (divorced, with a child). i thought a lot about it recently, and found all the problems that were mentioned in the previous posts. its very difficult for the woman, and probably just that makes it also very difficult for the potentian partner too. in this situation women have to be very careful, and men need to be very patient...
not easy for anyone...
and i dont know the right way either...