the wish to be tied up and dominated in bed

[secretlife]

does anyone of you have such a strange desire?
i always had a normal life, was not misused as a child, went to good schools, used never drugs, had a normal sexual life, there was nothing that could explain why the idea of being tied up and used like a sextoy arouses me. i think there must be some psychological rule that makes you wish for some unpleasant thing that is fully missing from your life. like sometimes drinking beer or some other bitter drink, you know its bitter, and still you feel you need it...
maybe people who have something bitter in their life dont want such unpleasant experiences... i mean if i had a husband who beat me up every week, i would probably not dream about roleplaying the role of a rape-vicitm...

dont misunderstand me, im not into hardcore sado-maso games, its just a kind of foreplay or extra spice to sex, but surely most women wouldnt want to be "used" like that. and that makes me feel bad, kind of perverse... well, thats what i would like to ask you. what do you think? have you ever had such a desire?

[blackzj52]

dude, thats completely normal.
im willing to bet plenty other people on this forum myself inluded would love for this to happen

[ecojeanne]

ye i have infact. i went to a sex shop with my ex and saw tie ups that didn't need a key and got really excited and asked him will i buy it. he turned his nose up at it which really dissapointed me, i had already a blindfold so we could have had a wild night.

obviously it depends on the person but i think a lot of women have both a dominant and submissive streak.

i heard the most amazing story recently from my friend who was slapped and stroked and tied up. it was facinating and i even bit my finger while listening to the story.

[OneLastHope]

Yea man its normal my G/f LOVES being tied up spanked (dominated) etc. she wants me to like every other time we hang out lmao

[secretlife]

thank you!
what a nice surprise... so you think its quite ok to have desires like that?
still i feel a kind of shame about it... my lover said, its quite cool, no problem, but still its so difficult to tell him if i want to try out some new position... kind of slutty...

onelasthope, may i ask you how she likes it?

[Tedel]

Just tell your bf he will find it weird only the first time

IMO, having those desires is kinda normal taking into account the oversexualized societies we live in these days. Mind, however, there's a very big difference between having a dream and making it real. Reality is many times really disappointing.

For instance, what you see in porn movies is just that: acting.

[Gigabitch]

i think there must be some psychological rule that makes you wish for some unpleasant thing that is fully missing from your life.

If you think being tied up in bed is unpleasant, you are dead wrong. I love that shit.

[IndiReloaded]

Yep. Tho I also like to be dominant sometimes. Guess I was a dom in a previous life.

You are fine, Secret, no worries. Sexual fetishes only become a problem if it affects other areas of your life or you start to take *real* risks.

[Only-virgins]

I would love to tie up a girl and smack her around for a while. Make her my toy. So much satisfaction and frustration would be released. The next day we can do it nice and slow.

[Gigabitch]

I would love to tie up a girl and smack her around for a while. Make her my toy. So much satisfaction and frustration would be released. The next day we can do it nice and slow.

Only on the ass. Smacking in the face is humiliating, and I think that's a totally different fetish. It would be hard to find somebody into that.

[DoesntMatter]

Female ass was made to be slapped and sucked on

[Charlie Boy II]

I'm always amazed that so many women are into having the things done to them that I want to do to them. It's like a cosmic game of Perfect Match.

[1averagejoe]

The most I've done is handcuffs with lots of ass smacking...not going to lie it was hot. I was the dominant one of course.

[secretlife]

fortunately this desire is not only fantasy for me, i have a secret realtionship where i can try out things in reality. and when we meet, i get tied up rather often (about 50% of time, recently even more) the only trouble is, its hard to find time to meet without being noticed. i have a daughter, and i want to keep her out of that. every second weekend she goes to her dad (my ex), then i have time for these secret desires. but two weeks are a long time, sometimes we meet between, so about once-twice every week, when my daughter has some extra occupation.
so its not only fantasy... and i love it too, it makes me extra horny, so its not unpleasant in this respect, but not very comfortable either, eg. when i lay on my back, my hands tied together behind and i lay on them, plus he lays on me... or when im strongly gagged and he arouses me with his fingers and plays with my nipples and takes them between his teeth until i would beg to stop and finally f... me. its like pain and pleasure together, a very intensive feeling, but not only pleasure...
and of course these games are humiliating for the woman, being degraded to a sextoy... sometimes i wonder why i do this, i could sit in a cafe and drink a baileys, instead of roleplaying being raped... what would my mother say if she saw me? on the other hand, i had my best orgasms while tied up and even gagged strictly...
we havent tried spanking yet but im getting more and more curious, there are so much yet to try out...

[secretlife]

If you think being tied up in bed is unpleasant, you are dead wrong. I love that shit.

btw gigabitch, may i ask you wich way you like it? i mean being tied up... what does he do to you? maybe its too intimate to speak about it in public, you can send me a pm if you like.
thanks