Tips on how to achieve orgasm

[Hellfire]

Just some of the things I have tried include riding out washing machine cycles, using a variety of different vibrators, reading a shelf worth of sex manuals, watching heterosexual porn, watching homosexual porn, reading dirty stories, reading sexy novels, role playing, screwing when drunk, screwing when sober, sexy underwear and outfits, plus all the usual things like sex in a variety of positions with several different partners over the years.

None of it has made me cum and it's making me feel inadequate and broken. Plus I think my boyfriend is losing interest as a result.

So, any legitimate tips or assistance on how to achieve this goal as well as any info on what it actually feels like would be appreciated.

Cheers.

[carl1222]

You are way overworrying ... the best way to make your first big O elude you, hellfire.

Orgasms for women are all about letting go (for men it's mostly a matter of proper friction).

Is it possible that you have become so obsessed with reaching an orgasm that you are a bit too much "in your mind" instead of "in your body"?

Carl

[Hellfire]

The things I've listed are cumulative over 6 years of sexual activity. I haven't been concerned about it at all until recently because I thought it was normal however apparently I was laboring under a misconception. It's not something I'm obsessing about constantly (though my post may look a bit that way) and I don't concentrate on it during sex. I'm just a bit fed up with it, that's all.

To be honest, I'm kinda more curious what it actually feels like. How else are you supposed to know when it happens? (nb. Please don't say "you'll just know" because I've heard that already)

[Gribble]

Erm. I'm male but I imagine that female orgasms aren't all that different. The "you'll just know" bit is completely true. During sex you'll (hopefully) feel pleasure that consistently ramps up. The orgasm, however, will be an intense spasm of pleasure. As a male I experience waves of pleasure with each spurt. As a female I'm not sure if you'll feel waves or just one big lump of orgasmic bliss.

I think your best bet is to work on achieving orgasm alone. It's probably much more challenging to experience one with a partner. Once you can consistently orgasm on your own then you should worry about having one with the boyfriend. Uhm. How exactly to have one on your own is a topic best explained by a female. I find myself unable to even conceive of not having an orgasm from simple friction.

[ransom_nite]

Haha gribble i was waiting for the response of 'you wanna know how to cum? let me show you ' you disappointed me

[Charlie Boy II]

female orgasms aren't real orgasms anyway. I wouldn't worry about it.

[vashti]

:smacks charlieboy:

Gribble is right: you are going to have to learn how to orgasm yourself before you can expect someone else to do it. Experiment with your vibrator all by yourself until you are able to consistantly able to orgasm, then teach him how to do it.

[Indignant]

Erm. I'm male but I imagine that female orgasms aren't all that different. The "you'll just know" bit is completely true. During sex you'll (hopefully) feel pleasure that consistently ramps up. The orgasm, however, will be an intense spasm of pleasure.

i disagree, female orgasms are completely different. my question to Hell is, during the 6 years was it all with the same partner?

[boobaa]

Haha gribble i was waiting for the response of 'you wanna know how to cum? let me show you ' you disappointed me

You are kind of gay.

[lesa]

She stated it was with multiple partners.

Carl and Gribble got it right...it's the same for females. It's all in the friction. That's all I can dare to say. No need for vibrators.

[Gribble]

i disagree, female orgasms are completely different.

How do you know and how is it different? Please elaborate.

[Charlie Boy II]

vaginas are just cocks turned inisde out, so I'd say it's about the same.

[lesa]

HINT: Do to the clitoris as you would the penis. That is all.

[jockzon]

After 6 years of masturbating and all that you have done, frankly, I would go to a doctor. Maybe you could get estrogen treatments? Oh, that might not be good, medically. I wonder exactly what you are expecting? A female orgasm feels like this: your area of friction starts feeling incredibly full and then almost painful. Then you feel a release and you don't want any more friction at all. It's not like bells go off or anything.

[carl1222]

Jockzon is right. In my experience, right after a woman reaches orgasm, she doesn't want any more physical stimulation for a bit. Some woman I have been with grabbed my hand to hold it motionless but still against her just after reaching release, others have just said "don't move!!!" Maybe that's why simultaneous orgasms during intercourse are so great for both, because the man naturally does exactly that .... presses hard but stops moving for a minute.

hmmm ... does that mean all the others were faking it? hahaha

Carl.