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    dreams are haunting me

    I haven't been able to sleep for days because I dream about my ex wife every night... I think I'm going crazy. Either I don't sleep, or I wake up every morning almost in tears. I hate it.
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    When a relationship ends it is a form of loss... and like any loss of something or someone close, you will have to almost grieve for it. These dreams are just manifestations of your thoughts and feelings at this time --- a way of expressing them. As you keep moving onward from this, staying busy and realizing that there is a life after all of this... your dreams will start to change as your feelings do. This will just take some time and a little work, but it can be accomplished.
    "The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."

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    What I am about to suggest may sound a bit off kilter..but consider it if you seriously want to feel better.

    Ever had feelings of bisexuality? I have always wanted to kiss and do other stuff with another guy...a hot guy. Like a dude with blond hair tanned and a smoking good body.

    When I break up, and throughout my relationships with girls, I watch gay porn and the thought is always in the back of my mind that if it doesn't work out, I could have some hot men to have fun with in my life.

    Basically, you need to replace your sad thoughts with something else...and taboo gay sex does the trick for me!

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Godfather View Post
    I haven't been able to sleep for days because I dream about my ex wife every night... I think I'm going crazy. Either I don't sleep, or I wake up every morning almost in tears. I hate it.

    It will pass, you have to keep yourself busy and keep your mind away from it. Prepare for it, you will have occasional dreams or thoughts, just be ready to look past them.

    Its been 3 months and woke up last week in a nightmare like state b/c I dreamed I saw my ex with another guy. It happens, you live to see another day.

    "What you really fear is inside yourself. You fear your own power.
    You fear your own anger, the drive to do great and terrible things."


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    I had the opposite, almost like a premonition. A few days ago I dreamed that my boyfriend split up with me. I told him about it and said it felt like the worst pain I'd ever felt and I hope it would never happen. He smiled, kissed me and said it won't. And yet just over 24 hours later, that's exactly what he did. It hurts a hell of a lot more than it did in the dream...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Everlovin View Post
    I have always wanted to kiss and do other stuff with another guy...a hot guy. Like a dude with blond hair tanned and a smoking good body.
    WTF!?!?! Dude that is not right.. You make me sick..
    Pain is just weakness leaving the body...

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    Quote Originally Posted by ransom_nite View Post
    WTF!?!?! Dude that is not right.. You make me sick..
    Why? What's wrong with a man being attracted to another man? I'm surprised that homophobia is still so prevalent in this the 21st century, be a bit more tolerant. If he wants to be with other men, why does that affect you? I bet you wouldn't be complaining if this was a woman saying she's attracted to other women and likes watching lesbian porn, would you?

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    You're grieving, GF. Give it time. Take something to help you sleep if its affecting your work (not too much booze, just one shot, if that's what you choose).

    I take it you two are not going to reconcile, then?

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    Yeah, it happens to me too. I've had trouble sleeping the past few nights. My heart always beats extremely fast and I have this nauseating wretch in my gut when I think about whether or not she is with another guy.

    It'll pass.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IndiReloaded View Post
    You're grieving, GF. Give it time. Take something to help you sleep if its affecting your work (not too much booze, just one shot, if that's what you choose).

    I take it you two are not going to reconcile, then?
    Well I was considering that, but I changed my mind when she chose to bring new father figures into our daughters life. That's not something I tolerate.

    Also I've learned that Tylenol PM is my friend.

    BTW I am bisexual... LOL
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Godfather View Post

    BTW I am bisexual... LOL
    Shrug. Twice the rebound options, then?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Everlovin View Post
    Basically, you need to replace your sad thoughts with something else...and taboo gay sex does the trick for me!
    Agrees... do need to replace your sad thoughts with something else... taboo gay sex isn't a bad idea...


    Quote Originally Posted by ransom_nite View Post
    WTF!?!?! Dude that is not right.. You make me sick..
    Everyone is entitled to their own feelings and opinions. Peptobismol works wonders for nausea...

    Quote Originally Posted by The Godfather View Post
    Well I was considering that, but I changed my mind when she chose to bring new father figures into our daughters life. That's not something I tolerate.

    Also I've learned that Tylenol PM is my friend.

    BTW I am bisexual... LOL
    Not much you can do about the introduction of new father figures into your daughter's life when you and her mother are no longer together. You need to focus on what you do have control over... your influence on your daughter's life... you are her real father and nothing in this world can ever change this.

    Ha ha... irony seems to be in play here... nothing wrong with being bisexual..
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Godfather View Post
    BTW I am bisexual... LOL
    Thats awesome bro!! You know, I used to think that I was one of the few bisexual people in my cirlce of friends. Not anymore. I took a survey recently and it showed that 40% of all males have "bisexual tendencies"

    Most of the men on this forum are either bisexual or closet gay. I think this is something that we should embrace because we can use it to our advantage when it comes to women. If they think they can use sex to their advantage, ha! we will turn right around and start sleeping with each other and having way hotter sex.

    Godfather, I hope your feeling better. Keep your chin up bro!

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    ^^haha..well i am most definitly one of those guys.
    man you guys are all coming out of the woodwork now
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    Quote Originally Posted by Everlovin View Post
    You know, I used to think that I was one of the few bisexual people in my cirlce of friends.
    I used to think the same thing... though in my case, I probably am the only one..

    Quote Originally Posted by Everlovin View Post
    Not anymore. I took a survey recently and it showed that 40% of all males have "bisexual tendencies"
    Wonder what the stats are for women?
    "The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."

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