What is everyones personal definition of Love?

[Junket]

that is love. that is the love that will never fade.

That's love that fades the fastest.

[boobaa]

Love is meaningless.

[Aeradalia]

Love is meaningless.

When you don't have it? Right boobaa?

[ecojeanne]

love is care for something or someone and enjoyment from using it or them

[boobaa]

When you don't have it? Right boobaa?

That too.

But as eco said, love is care tc etc. But in the end it doesn't matter, we are all going to die anyway.

[doppelgaenger]

That too.

But as eco said, love is care tc etc. But in the end it doesn't matter, we are all going to die anyway.

You could say the same thing about anything.

That's a ****in' retarded statement.

[Aeradalia]

everyone's general ideal of love is pretty similar but then theres specific aspects of their opinion of love that makes it unique and beautiful. thats why this question is a great one.

i think theres a couple different types of love. for example theres a love you have for someone versus being in love.

being in love is a mutual thing that two people have to share. its a bond. if it were a true bond then it should be inseperable. i truly believe thats possible and for you pessimists out there i really think that you all need to stop thinking bout the negatives of a relationship and focus on the positives while still having the negatives you've learned from in the past.

anyway, the other love is much easier to attain. to have love for someone could be generalized into subcatigories i suppose by friendship or relatives or for a girl, or if ur a girl, for a guy. but since this a personalized question im gunna make it in the aspect of a girl, since im a guy.

what ive experienced as love is hard to put into words, its not this perfect thing that is only happiness. it sometimes is torture to me. i treasure endlessly seeing the girl i love smile. when i see her smile, or laugh ive been brought to tears. maybe thats me being too attached...i dont know, but id like to think of it as a good thing. the reason why it could be torture is because when shes unhappy i go through hell. even if its not my fault that shes unhappy. i tend to attach to the emotions of the person i love so that my emotions are chained to hers. yes, that is an emotinal rollercoaster, but i want to feel how she feels.

i think love causes one to be selfless more than they've ever thought they could be, not only that, but they are smiling the whole time they are doing so, no matter what they are doing. i think love is when you go somewhere with that girl and when she asks you if you remember seeing this certain thing and you dont remember because you were looking at her face the whole time

i think love is when this girl comes over to your house and shes miserably sick and you tuck her into your bed and run to the store to buy her food her stomach can handle, even though its new years eve and the store is jammed pack.

one person quoted a bible verse....the one that says love is patient, love is kind...and so on. i suggest you all look it up because its so true. just because its a verse in the bible and you dont believe in it doesnt make it untrue. its a beautiful verse that has so much meaning. and i believe if u feel anything that verse says you should feel then ur definately loving that girl.

for me, love is when even though your girl is angry and shes taking it out on you, you are still looking into her eyes and weak at the knees. when it never gets old to be with her. and that in itself poses a problem because girls definately want more space than guys feel they need. and i personally always want to be with this girl, ive yet to want space from her. but she wants from me, and ladies...thats why we get upset or hurt when you say you need space. because we dont feel the same way and the understanding of you wanting space doesnt come quickly. (sorry for the side note) girls you need to learn that guys are not usually this rock of non emotion. they tend to be more emotional than girls, they get hurt and they dont forget, the hurt doesnt go away until the next time they see you. you all need to learn to be reassuring because at least for me i get scared all the time im gunna lose that girl. maybe its insecurity, but i think its that im manifested in this girl. shes completely engraved in my heart.

i think love has a physically feeling to it. its that feeling where every time your heart beats it feels like its going to explode because that feeling of joy when she jumps out of her car and walks to your door and you are watching out the window waiting for her to get to your door so you can hug her as long as you can. that feeling doesnt leave even after she goes home. but then you start to get sad because the day is over and you dont want her to leave, even though u spent all day with her. at the same time when something happens, when you get in an arguement or you make her unhappy or she makes you unhappy your heart feels like its going to explode with every beat because of the feeling of anguish. and it wont go away till the next time you see her. and you dont want to do anything but see her and feel her. the feeling is so powerful. all these feelings run your thoughts all your thoughts are geared towards that girl. its an amazing feeling yet when the negatives feeling come you get sick. you feel like you are going to throw up, you wake up in the morning and your legs are weak, you honestly dont feel like you can get through the day. and you hit panic mode. your heart rate goes up and stays up, your breathing gets rapid, your stomach churns...its hell. but then the next time you see her, or even talk to her on the fone it all instantly goes away because shes there with you in the now. that feeling of your heart exploding with pure joy, this joy that you still feel in all hells of your other life, when you are doing bad in school, or your work is at a recession and you still say i dont care because i have that girl.

oh one more thing. that love is pronounced when that girl comes over and you are embracing her and she looks up at you and the way she does it...you have to do everything you can to stand. every inside piece of you flips and you cant help but kiss her...you have to just laugh a little bit because of all this pent up energy that must leave your body.

that is love. that is the love that will never fade.

Hope this helps clarify...

[ecojeanne]

i reckon all love fades, if you have too much of anything or anyone, people deny that it fades, but people get sick of stuff and other people. it all just depends on how much you're willing to put up with, we all use each other and we all have our uses

[Aeradalia]

That too.

But as eco said, love is care tc etc. But in the end it doesn't matter, we are all going to die anyway.

Life is about the journey... not the destination. If it were, then you should just kill yourself - so you'd be in the lead!

We're only given so much time and we have to make the most of it... enjoy it as much as we can.

Love is one of those things that makes life wonderful... it allows you to see the world as beautiful and forget about death for a while. Eventually... love has a way of making death not seem so bad, because you actually had a chance to experience true happiness in life - that you didn't spend your whole life just feeling different degrees of pain.

Love has a way of absolving all the regrets you had in life... a way of making you feel better about yourself... a way of making you feel worthy... and truly happy - all because the one you love makes you feel that way... makes you honestly believe it.

To truly feel that way before I die would undoubtedly be one of the greatest accomplishments of my life.

But as with everyone else... this is just an opinion...

[boobaa]

You could say the same thing about anything.

Exactly!

That is the truth. Therefore it isn't retarded at all. What, do I have to make up interesting poetic word combinations, apply some kind of meaning to everything I do to not be retarded?

Ok, maybe to make this more understandable to you: Love is a flow of hormones and a bunch of chemical reactions which conclude logical selection of partners in your subconcious.

And to put this in practice. Look at today-s society, marriages. How many people divorce? At first it is affection to something new and interesting, you choose your partner like you choose shoes actually, which best fits to your taste, and then it is an affection of being used to a person. There is no deeper meaning, life is a ****.

[IndiReloaded]

That too.

But as eco said, love is care tc etc. But in the end it doesn't matter, we are all going to die anyway.

Wow. Thats deep Boobaa.

But by your logic, we should still be living in caves or worse and dying from all sorts of disease and wild animals and such.

Is this how you think humanity should be? Just all doing *nothing* b/c eventually we are all dead anyway? You think only at an individual level. Think of things a bit larger scale and you will see just how important life is.

We've discussed this before. Your statement is poorly thought out. You are only spewing something you've heard or read, you haven't actually thought this through to its full conclusion.

When we go to the mars, you can't come unless you smarten up, okay?

[Only-virgins]

This is a kick-ass question, OV.

There is a group at U of C, Martha McClintock & others who are studying PEA and other things. Go to a talk and ask, seriously.

A talk? Are they studying the effects of these? Person also mentioned Dopamine and norepinephrine. I am sure they are related as I think one is a precursor to the other. They explain to me many of the condition the body feels, but not the conditions the conscious mind feels. I am going to look it up, thanks. I have heard the pheromone smell theory as well, but it only ended up posing more questions to me again.

Good advice Indi ... but I really think people would be better off knowing what love ISN'T It's not love that gets us into trouble ... it's love's evil twin infatuation that does.

Carl

I think the point is that it is hard to distinguish one from the other. Not to mention that I personally believe that the goal of life to an individual should be to be happy. It is love that has no meaning but only the meaning we give it, how ever, judging by and going by the definitions of poems and the infatuous feeling some have changed it to...science is trying to figure out the workings of love. Most people get attached to others and call others who are infatuated dumb and having the "incorrect" love feeling but attachment doesn't sound great to me either. I am also not going to care for someone and say I love them simply because today I choose to. I either feel it or not, I have found love to be a feeling, I always classified it as a feeling since I was a little boy and I will continue to do so. I also don't think that love is meant to last, our relationship past it can though.

[boobaa]

Wow. Thats deep Boobaa.

But by your logic, we should still be living in caves or worse and dying from all sorts of disease and wild animals and such.

Is this how you think humanity should be? Just all doing *nothing* b/c eventually we are all dead anyway? You think only at an individual level. Think of things a bit larger scale and you will see just how important life is.

We've discussed this before. Your statement is poorly thought out. You are only spewing something you've heard or read, you haven't actually thought this through to its full conclusion.

When we go to the mars, you can't come unless you smarten up, okay?

No, this is exactly the conclusion I came to all by myself a few weeks ago. And that was the best feeling I have ever had. I am ashamed to tell you that I am actually a lazy reader :/

And I don't get all that living in caves thing, can you explain it to me better? So, since we do things, progress, we all have to have some kind of meaning?
By that, are you saying that bats in cave and any other living being who does not progress some way, is utterly pointless and only us, humans have that so called meaning?
And what is that meaning?

Oh, and by the way, cave animals build things too. Birds learn and develope their instincts, memory, different nest construction techniques.

What we do, is basically the same thing, survival. Only difference is that we get more bored. And where the hell did you see me telling to do nothing? Get your brain straight. This is your own conclusion, always need some kind of reason to do something, some kind of meaning, like someone telling you to do something... Do or not do, no difference, and you apparently chose doing nothing, congrats.

[IndiReloaded]

Boobaa, if everyone actually believed what you say then why should we DO anything? We are already dead, right? Might as well end your suffering now?

Humans do NOT merely survive. Not anymore. That is my point. If however, everyone did as you say and consider it all 'useless', then that is where we'd end up. Back in caves. Eating raw food filled with parasites. Hiding in trees to escape the other predators.

Sorry Booboo, but you haven't thought this through nearly enough.

[IndiReloaded]

Good advice Indi ... but I really think people would be better off knowing what love ISN'T It's not love that gets us into trouble ... it's love's evil twin infatuation that does.

Carl

I agree with this. But OV is a young man with science training, so I thought he might as well know there are folks actually studying these things.