How important is good sex to you guys? In other words, how high up is it on your list of attributes you're seeking in a mate?
Would it be more important than say, financial stability or a good personality?
Let's say you were going out with someone and you fought like cats and dogs, but the sex was AMAZING? Would the good sex trump the fact that you drove each other crazy?
EDIT: I'm not only talking about amazing sex here, but sexual compatibility as well. For example, having a partner that likes the same things as you do in bed (oral, anal, fetishes, etc.,)
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03-01-09, 10:06 PM #1
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How important is "good sex"?
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03-01-09, 10:10 PM #2
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The sex alone wouldn't cut it, longterm SB.
But it wouldn't work longterm if it wasn't there either.
I have a short list of 'must haves' in a partner, and good sex is one of them.
Hope that made sense.
EDIT: This means if he was a prude in bed, its not on. He wouldn't need to be a porn star, but he'd have to be open minded & willing to try stuff.Last edited by IndiReloaded; 03-01-09 at 10:46 PM.
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03-01-09, 10:14 PM #3
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I'd rather have all the other stuff... bad sex can usually be corrected with a little learning, patience, and lots of encouragement. In the past I did have partners that were awful with sex but very nice... over time, with practice, the sex got better. So that's pretty much my view and has been my experience.
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03-01-09, 10:20 PM #4
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Okay, on the other hand. Just HOW 'amazing' are we talking? Hot rushes & can't walk for 2 days later Amazing?
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03-01-09, 10:24 PM #5
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I'm not only talking about amazing sex, but also sexual compatibility.
For example, if you like oral, but your partner won't do it. (as in Arrow's thread)
I edited my initial question to reflect this to make it more clear what I'm seeking responses about.Last edited by starbuck; 03-01-09 at 10:32 PM.
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Sexually adventurous would definitely be a plus in that case. I would probably be let down if my partner didn't enjoy some of the things I did sexually, but if they had a nice personality and everything else was 'in place' then I would certainly give it a try. Who knows? Maybe they can be persuaded over time? Maybe I can learn to live without such 'sexual techniques'? In the long run, if it all comes tumbling down... I'd like to say I gave the person a chance.
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04-01-09, 01:58 AM #7
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Relationship with out good sex? pointless.
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04-01-09, 02:29 AM #8
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good sex isn't worth the relationship if the two personalities are not compatible.
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Not as important as other things but still important.
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04-01-09, 03:54 AM #10
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Not at all important
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Lie. Originally Posted by Nina
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04-01-09, 10:14 AM #12
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Good sex is important but if I can't stand the girl out of the bed, there's no hope for a relationship.
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04-01-09, 10:51 AM #13
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I'm still of the opinion that there's no such thing as bad sex. At least not for a male. If she lies perfectly still it isn't exactly the best but I still get my rocks off just fine. So I guess the other crap is more important.
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04-01-09, 11:08 AM #14
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yeah, I don't think I've ever had bad sex. But, if I did, I woudn't pursue a long term relationship. Like if the girl didn't do oral I would find that annoying and indicative of puritan attitude to their own sexuality.
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What a lie lmao. Originally Posted by Nina
Good sex is muy importante. It helps me to want to stick around and deal with your bullshit a little longer....til the bullshit gets to ****ed up...::.*Love is giving someone the ability to break your heart but trusting them not to*.::..
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