Hey folks,
I'm in a lot of pain right now, and I'm looking for advice and/or answers.
My ex and I had been together for 2 years, but a few weeks ago we broke up because she doesn't trust me anymore. We were in a long distance relationship for over a year, when I finally packed up and moved down to be with her. (900 miles) I didn't have a lot of money or possessions, but I felt that nothing could stop me from being with my love. And for several months things were fantastic. I'd pick her up every other weekend or so and bring her back to my apartment for the weekend to spend time together.
However, I have a habit of lying when it comes to my financial status. She would ask how much money I had and what I was doing with it, and I would like about how much I had or what I did with it and come clean hours or even days later out of guilt. I don't have much money at all, and I'm very ashamed of that fact. After doing that 2 or 3 times, she said she couldn't trust me anymore, and that she couldn't be with me if she couldn't trust me. When I ask her how she actually feels about me, she says she doesn't know, just that it's "not the same anymore." If I try pressuring her to be more specific, she gets extremely angry. She goes on and on about needing time... but I'm still miserable. Time is passing very slowly, and I've just started a new job that I don't want to lose because of my emotionality. We even still call each other cutesy names when we talk. I'm so confused....
We still talk about having kids and a big house someday together. She even says that she still sees us being together in the distant future. That seems like a long and painful wait to me... and it hurts more every day. When I see her online it cheers me up a lot, but I still feel empty. Does anyone have advice on what I should do?
Thanks!
-Jess