A question about grieving the end of a relationship

[jmah]

I went out with someone for 8 months & we broke up a little over a month ago. Is it normal to still be grieving?
Not that I'm sad all of the time, but, I do get sad when I think about them, I miss them and even though I am going out with friends, I have no interest in getting involved (even just for a casual date) with anyone. The break-up wasn't a good one and I think that I may be a bit depressed because I'm having a hard time in that I have to push myself to enjoy things.

[Cbrider]

Your reaction and how you cope is different from person to person. You sound completely normal to me, I dated a girl for 5 months and it took me 3 or 4 months to really get past it for various reasons.

It sucks, but it gets better with time, eventually you will be find, just takes time

[Sonrisa]

Not that I'm sad all of the time, but, I do get sad when I think about them, I miss them and even though I am going out with friends, I have no interest in getting involved (even just for a casual date) with anyone.

who's them?

[and_for_what]

who's them?

The op's ex

[Sonrisa]

The op's ex

why them? it was more than 1?

[jmah]

Sorry, it should be 'her' (instead of 'them'). We're both girls.

[greenfish7]

Well it might your just used to sticking onto things you liked..maybe over time you`ll realise that not always things are same and learn to get along..wait till someone better comes along to sweep you off your feet!! :p keep yourself occupied in little interesting things ..sure you`ll do fine!

[greenfish7]

have you ever wanted to re-join back with the other person? if yes, then maybe you still are looking to make-up for the broke past...

[greenfish7]

awaiting answer..

[jmah]

You know part of it was (is)? I think that for me, I needed some closure on things. And, tonight, I got a bit of that. I just finished talking to them and got some answers. And I'll be honest with you, it has helped a bit.

[Sonrisa]

You know part of it was (is)? I think that for me, I needed some closure on things. And, tonight, I got a bit of that. I just finished talking to them and got some answers. And I'll be honest with you, it has helped a bit.

is it really more than one person? don't be afraid to tell.

[hoopuk]

'Them' is acceptable to use as a singular.

[kak]

is it them?

[and_for_what]

why them? it was more than 1?

You can say "they" or "them" (etc.) to refer to one person when their gender is unknown or just not to be specified.

[jmah]

It's just one person.