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    is my girl internet cheating on me?

    i know this may sound weird but here goes. my girl and i have a pretty open relationship, great sex life and are very much in love with eachother. we get a little naughty some times and pull out the camera during sex. i thought this was for our own personal viewing. recently i found out by snooping (i know this is wong but why should it matter if we arent hiding anything from eachother) that she has been letting one of her ex boyfriends and another one of her male friends see the pictures through her email. i thougth she loved me! i also found out that the same people she is emailing the pics to are also in her cell phone contacts. she is nowhere near either of them and i dont think its possible for them to have met up in person but should i worry about this??

    even if they havent met in person, would this still be considered cheating?

    anyone with any ideas or opinions please let me know,

    thank you very much.
    Last edited by mrjake78; 28-02-09 at 01:19 AM.

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    F**K YES WORRY! Unless your ok with it... Which is cool, but she should have asked.

    What she's doing is so weird it's scary...

    Also, did you have a REASON for snooping? If not, that's a no-no.

    Seems to me you BOTH broke each others trust. EVEN THOUGH, this time you happen to be right. Unless you had a good reason for snooping that was a bad idea.

    I'd call her on and see where the conversation goes... if you don't like what she has to say, leave her...
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    That’s kinda cool! That makes me smile and I actually feel quite large at the end of that.
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    my reason for snooping is that she always waits untill i go to sleep to get on the net, i was curious as to what she was up to. when i suspected her of it befor i did confront her about it, but she gave me a bluff and said "you want to go through me emails and see" knowing that i would take her word for it

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    Hmmm... Honestly i'd just end this relationship. As far as i can tell, there's really no trust from either of you. What she's doing baffles me... I mean, why send sexual pictures of yourself WITH your current lover, TO your Ex and your other male buddies? The ONLY reason i can see is to show off you off? But that's a slim chance i think...
    "We are all connected to each other biologically, to the earth chemically and to the rest of the universe atomically.
    That’s kinda cool! That makes me smile and I actually feel quite large at the end of that.
    It’s not that we are better than the universe, we are part of the universe. We are in the universe and the universe is in us."
    — Neil deGrasse Tyson

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    That's some red-flag behavior, in my opinion.
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    Jake, Maybe it's not cheating per se, but it's some kind of breach of trust. Those pictures and videos were meant for you and her. She outright lied about it to. Makes you wonder what else she might be lying about.

    She's obviously keeping this stuff hidden from you for a reason. She seems like a cheater in the making. Sorry to say it.

    Confront her. Do it for your own self-respect and sanity.
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    I would be worried. This is not normal behaviour for some one who is in a relationship. I would not say that she is cheating yet but it sounds like she maybe considering it and she is sending these pics so that she can get the attention.

    I would end the relationship. It is not healthy and not fair on you. There clearly is no trust in the relationship and with out this it will not work. If she loved you then she would not be behaving like this.

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    It's not just a violation of trust, it's a violation of your privacy too. I can't imagine anything stupider than sending intimate JPEGs to random guys, especially an ex-boyfriend. Doesn't she know (or care) that your pictures are likely to wind up somewhere on the Internet? Imagine her father's surprise when he finds naked pictures of his darling daughter having sex while he's browsing porn!

    Carl.

    ps ... if you were the cameraman, it's also a violation of your copyright.
    Last edited by carl1222; 10-03-09 at 08:30 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by starbuck View Post
    Jake, Maybe it's not cheating per se, but it's some kind of breach of trust. Those pictures and videos were meant for you and her. She outright lied about it to. Makes you wonder what else she might be lying about.

    She's obviously keeping this stuff hidden from you for a reason. She seems like a cheater in the making. Sorry to say it.

    Confront her. Do it for your own self-respect and sanity.
    i agree with u

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    No one should see her naked but you when you two are together. By her doing this she is not only cheating but she is being a nasty slut. Sure she hasnt put any man's penis into her yet. But she sure as hell has likely got a few men off with those pictures. Just think to yourself... if you saw her getting naked in front of a guy, would you consider it cheating? Its the first step to cheating. And in my book it is cheating. If my man showed his penis to some girl I would give him one hell of a beat down.

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