My girlfriend cheated on me

**Blurdragon** · 28-02-09, 12:39 PM

We started our relationship few months ago. During January, she got accepted into a new private school which is one of the best in my country. Our relationship was steady at first, I supported her through everything, literally. At this point, I must add in this is actually a long distance relationship. We would spend hours texting/calling each other.

But one day, she confessed, that she and another guy, Alex had sexual contact in the library. I was furious but I accepted her back.

Few weeks ago, she told me she was sexually assaulted by her ex boyfriend and she broke up with me because she don't feel like being in a relationship. At the end of that day, I found out that she actually has feelings for this genius guy in her class, Alex and so does he. I don't know how but I manage to forgive her.. We remained close friends and we constantly tell each other that we still have feelings for one another.

Few days ago, she came back with a big mosquito bite on her neck or so she says. I didn't believe her but I trust her too much to confront her or maybe I'm just afraid. Then today, I found out that she has been having sexual contact with this guy.. the mark on her neck is actually a hickey given by him.

I was disgusted but at the same time, I know I don't have the courage to tell her that this is over. I know I am stupid to still believe her but she says when she is with me, she can be who she is whilst when she is with him, she need to act as a different person. Now she is telling me she will TRY to end things with this guy and may want us to start over again.

This really put me in a dilemma. She has feelings for both of us and we in turn too have feelings for her. Is it stupid if the day really comes and I decide to accept her again? We are in a long distance relationship.. her reason is that sometimes when the physical attraction is too strong, she just can't hold it in. So what should I do?

**misombra** · 28-02-09, 12:47 PM

dump her. she's a perpetually bad liar.

**carl1222** · 28-02-09, 02:44 PM

DUMP, DUMP, DUMP, DUMP, DUMP!!!

That is the lamest excuse I've ever heard from a chronic cheater!

To put it in stark perspective ... Alex is sucking her neck and probably fingering her pu**y (or maybe fingers are no longer involved) ... in what parallel universe is that remotely acceptable to you?

Carl.

**Gribble** · 28-02-09, 10:54 PM

You know, when I was in college girls like yours were my favorite kind. They'd try so hard to be faithful to their boyfriends back home, but in truth they just wanted to let their hair down and have fun with all the other students. It never took much to convince them to either ditch their BFs outright or engage in a little infidelity. Let this be a lesson. When your girl goes off to school it's over. Find someone else. Enjoy yourself and have the balls to let her enjoy herself.

**Junket** · 28-02-09, 11:35 PM

She's a whore and you're a doormat.

**carl1222** · 01-03-09, 01:10 AM

Originally Posted by Frasbee

She's a whore and you're a doormat.

Hey, with the chic new trend to combine celebrity names into a single entity like "Brangelina" and "Bennifer" ... does that make OP and his girl "Whoremat"????

Carl.

**The_bobb** · 01-03-09, 06:14 AM

Originally Posted by Blurdragon

...I was furious but I accepted her back...
...I don't know how but I manage to forgive her...

These were your first 2 mistakes....

...we in turn too have feelings for her....

You never noticed the problem with having to add the word "WE" to this?

Dump her ass, she's bad news...

**Petit Papillon** · 01-03-09, 06:21 AM

[QUOTE=Blurdragon;428893]

Few days ago, she came back with a big mosquito bite on her neck or so she says. QUOTE]

Wow mosquito bite... It must be really warm in Your country.Here is winter and no mosquitos

**Aeradalia** · 01-03-09, 06:45 AM

She's either faithful to you or not... there is no middle ground. She cannot be 'conditionally' faithful to you. She cannot be allowed to cheat when you're gone for 5 minutes... or allowed free access to other guys on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Saturdays... or else she's a 'friend with benefits' and not a girlfriend.

There is nothing wrong with expecting fidelity from your girlfriend, and it should be expected that infidelity is reason enough to end the relationship. What if she's sexually involved with someone who has an STD? What if she gets pregnant? Suddenly her problems from being a whore becomes your problems... and that isn't fair at all.

Cut her loose... she doesn't respect you or herself. If she continues on this path she will end up contracting some disease or enduring some other consequence. If you remain with her... you will end up paying for HER mistakes as well.

**paul_mot** · 01-03-09, 08:04 AM

wtf man WTF, what is wrong with u people, am i the only guy who thinks like me on the planet?

how could you forgive cheating, cheating is not forgivable at all, dont tell me about love or anything like this sh**, this goes for girls too. once cheated = Dump + some hurting bad words

and one more thing, u should keep looking at ur girl, to prevent such cheats, of course if it is possible(in ur situation it wasn't), and even if u trust her, keep this possibility in ur head, this one day might save u from doing a crime or committing suicide.

**Blurdragon** · 01-03-09, 10:26 AM