lovesjoyajm says:

"Sure Neo, you can definitely effectively play the part of friend to someone you're crazy about, but there's no way you can tell me it's good for your own well-being. I don't know one good reason why anyone should endure it."

don't get me wrong. It was torture to listen to the person I love talk about other men while I tried to be friends with her. She even told me that she was fooling around with a guy. I wanted to die. However, I learned to deal with it and emerged a much stronger person b/c of that experience. Now breakups are easy for me. I have no trouble staying friends with exes and don't feel hurt seeing them with other guys.