Is something wrong with my penis or my girl?

[ohyes212]

So I'm new to this place, I was recommended by a friend and he said it helped him and his girl out a lot, so I figured I would try my problem here.



I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and two months now, and we've been very happy. Not that it's anything super long, but we've been able to retain a solid chemistry and be pretty open to each other about stuff. We both lost our virginity to each other, so the only intercourse experience we've had is with each other. I watch a decent amount of porn so I know what to do, but from what she tells me she doesn't watch porn so she says she is usually guessing about what to do in sex. We have sex usually once or twice a week, but this past time after we were done, we got to pillow talking and we talked about our sex life a little bit. She told me that she has never came while the two of us have sex, and that she only does when I eat her out. She says that sex is good, but she sometimes gets frustrated that she can't cum and gets secretly upset and holds it against me sometimes. She talked to her sister about it (awkward, i thought) and her sister said the first time she came was a little over a year and a half into her relationship after a night of drinking on a trip to Bermuda - basically saying it was the same thing for her but after that night it was like something switched and it's been great ever since. After we had the talk about it, the next few times we had sex I could tell she was bothered by not cumming, so my question is, what can i/do i do to make sex better for her? Is there something wrong with my penis or my girl? Help!

[WanderingAuthor]

Well, I have read a ton of material on this kind of thing (pleasuring women, that is ) and I could give you an interesting tip on how to get her going. My girl loves it when I do this, and this is the only way I can get get her off during sex if I do this prior:

1. Position yourself so that you are on her side. Left or right is not important.

2. Take your hand and, when she's ready, insert your middle and ring finger inside her. Use your whole two fingers to the point where the rest of your hand should be resting against her.

3. With your two fingers together, curl them upward against the upper wall of her vagina. Start rubbing her like that. Keep doing it...the movement should be like petting a cat or turning the page on a book.

4. An optional thing to do while doing this is take regular intervals to gently stimulate her clitoris. I say GENTLE here, because I have noticed that she gets hyper-sensitive in that area while you're doing that...my girlfriend actually jerks violently.

Give it a try if you're feeling froggy one night. The moment I discovered that little trick, my girlfriend began wanting sex a lot more. What guy doesn't want that?!

[lesa]

Is there something wrong with my penis or my girl? Help!

Neither. Remember that the equivalent thing to the penis is the clitoris. It needs to be stimulated.

...so my question is, what can i/do i do to make sex better for her?

Get flexible and gain a steady constant rhythm while gently pressing against her clit while engaging in penetrative sex.

EDIT: You are already doing the oral and other stuff so I am assuming you are asking how to get her to orgasm with penis-vaginal sex alone.

[carl1222]

The ability to make a girl reach orgasm has little or nothing to do with the physiology of your penis.

As a start, she has told you she can reach orgasm receiving oral sex. So you should be doing a lot of that with her so she doesn't get frustrated all the time. This is encouraging because it means that she doesn't have psychologicl inhibitions that sometimes make orgasm impossible for a girl. Girls usually have a harder time achieving orgasm than guys do so lots of foreplay is essential. You might also talk with her about what activities/positions during intercourse get her the most excited.

Because you already CAN make her cum through oral sex, I assume you are interested in trying to make her reach orgasm during penile penetration. One of nature's cruel practical jokes is placing a woman's clitoris an inch away from her vagina. You have to find a way to stimulate her clit while having sex. You can do that easiest in missionary position by being sure your pubic bone is in contact with her clit as you thrust. Have you tried stimulating her clit with your fingers or a small vibrator while you thrust? Does she get on top? If so, she can stimulate herself while riding you.

You might also try varying the depth of your thrust during intercourse. Long, deep strokes may be exciting to her mentally, but short strokes are more physically exciting because the head of your penis rubs against the nerves in her vagina ... those nerves (as well as her G spot) are all in the first few inches of her vagina. That's why WanderingAuthor's suggestion works so well.

The most important thing to do is experiment. The definition of insanity is to keep trying the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.

Also, take the time to bring some romance into your bedroom. Try soft lighting like candles, soft music, etc. and take your time. It's about relaxation ... that explains your sister in law's experience.

Carl.

[denfor25]

....my question is, what can i/do i do to make sex better for her? Is there something wrong with my penis or my girl? Help!

nothing is wrong. Concentrate on clitoris and G-spot, as sure deals; and, most important, try to sense what does she feel, what excites her; rather then talking about it (talking rarely works since they like a man to find out their desires), experiment a bit and use her excitement as a feedback, and you fill find her personal preferences in no time.

edit: be careful with simulated orgasms, if you trying too hard she may fake it to just stop her misery; but she will be upset later and that is bad news for a man; while moaning and motion can be faked, some purely physiological effects, such as wetness, blood pumping into lower department (just as man's penis but not as hard due to lower regulated blood pressure), lengthening of vagina, heard beat (to some degree), can not be faked; so you want to look for real signs, not fake signs.

[Petit Papillon]

Well, I have read a ton of material on this kind of thing (pleasuring women, that is ) and I could give you an interesting tip on how to get her going. My girl loves it when I do this, and this is the only way I can get get her off during sex if I do this prior:

1. Position yourself so that you are on her side. Left or right is not important.

2. Take your hand and, when she's ready, insert your middle and ring finger inside her. Use your whole two fingers to the point where the rest of your hand should be resting against her.

3. With your two fingers together, curl them upward against the upper wall of her vagina. Start rubbing her like that. Keep doing it...the movement should be like petting a cat or turning the page on a book.

4. An optional thing to do while doing this is take regular intervals to gently stimulate her clitoris. I say GENTLE here, because I have noticed that she gets hyper-sensitive in that area while you're doing that...my girlfriend actually jerks violently.

Give it a try if you're feeling froggy one night. The moment I discovered that little trick, my girlfriend began wanting sex a lot more. What guy doesn't want that?!

What a crap... If for example she doesn't feel it inside he can stuck a cucumber into her and she can kiss her own ass but she won't have orgasm... Sometimes it is like this.I've read that 43% of women never has a vaginal orgasm so I don't think that his magic fingers will be enough magic to make her have orgasm...

[Gribble]

Female biology confuses the hell out of me. The clitoris is the pleasure center, right? And naturally it's way up high where it barely gets any stimulation during intercourse.

This is why women are inferior. It isn't the guy's fault if you don't orgasm. It's a design flaw that's to blame.

[carl1222]

Female biology confuses the hell out of me. The clitoris is the pleasure center, right? And naturally it's way up high where it barely gets any stimulation during intercourse.

This is why women are inferior. It isn't the guy's fault if you don't orgasm. It's a design flaw that's to blame.

Precisely what I meant when I said "One of nature's cruel practical jokes" Gribble!

Carl.

[Petit Papillon]

As for me is always different way to stimulate it. And yeah it must have been joke I would rather be as easy as guys and their little friends

[denfor25]

Female biology confuses the hell out of me. .....

you have a point here; actually a G-spot is best stimulated in a pose from behind, just the style others mammals (monkeys, dogs, cows...) do sex, so that is why G-spot is there, it does not stimulated in face-to-face almost at all; but why the heck clitoris is there where it is but so small? Is it a sign of slow evolutionary transition to face-to-face sex, since it does get some stimulation in face-to-face? Who knows, may be someday human females will have measurable clitoris.

i have seen some research a while ago by archeologists studying when transition to face-to-face sex occurred; they were analyzing bones for presence of STD infections vs. oral contact only infections; they concluded the time (millions or hundreds of thousands years ago or so) and demonstrated it was evolutionary process.

So, are female at fault for this "design flow"; or just trying to adapt to males who started to prefer face-to-face sex at some point???

[Lite]

Female biology confuses the hell out of me. The clitoris is the pleasure center, right? And naturally it's way up high where it barely gets any stimulation during intercourse.

This is why women are inferior. It isn't the guy's fault if you don't orgasm. It's a design flaw that's to blame.

Actually, that's only the external portion of the clitoris. It's a hell of a lot larger, and you know the interior portion of it as The G Spot.

Changing positions can help, but basically there are a good number of women who simply cannot orgasm from penetration alone. Period.

[Petit Papillon]

WHERE IS THE G-SPOT IN WOMEN?
- In the end of the word SHOPPING

[Junket]

Clearly porn hasn't taught you that vaginal orgasms don't come as easy as you think.

[vashti]

Guess what word does NOT appear in any of my medical dictionaries or books? That's right: G-spot (or Grafenberg spot).



Medline lists it as follows:

Medical Dictionary
One entry found for G-spot.


Main Entry: G-spot
Pronunciation: j-spät
Function: noun
: a mass of tissue that is held by some physiologists and specialists in human sexual behavior to exist in the anterior vaginal wall and to be highly erogenous but whose existence and function are doubted by others because of insufficient objective evidence -- called also Grafenberg spot

[Lite]

Guess what word does NOT appear in any of my medical dictionaries or books? That's right: G-spot (or Grafenberg spot).



Medline lists it as follows:

Medical Dictionary
One entry found for G-spot.


Main Entry: G-spot
Pronunciation: j-spät
Function: noun
: a mass of tissue that is held by some physiologists and specialists in human sexual behavior to exist in the anterior vaginal wall and to be highly erogenous but whose existence and function are doubted by others because of insufficient objective evidence -- called also Grafenberg spot

So you're saying that the female orgasm is also a myth?