Originally Posted by
Prodigal
Have you ever gone out with your friends, or talked with them, and seen or talked about some guy who was a gentleman? A guy who was nice, generous, caring, understanding... no, I'm not talking about those stupid muscular guys on those romance novels. I mean just a down-to-earth, easy to talk to, amiable guy. Do they ever say, "Wow, I wish I could go out with that guy", or seem attracted to him? In almost any wind, I'd highly doubt it. I don't think women are attracted to guys like this.
I just wanted to say that I am very much attracted to guys like that.
I dated a guy my Senior Year in high school whose nickname was Lurch - he was 6'3 and allegedly had a bowl cut. All I knew was he had the sweetest smile, kind brown eyes, and he got so nervous when he'd go to hold my hand in the beginning that he shook, just a little bit. He was often the butt of jokes and I stood up for him always. I adored him. Let me tell you what my adoration got me - - - we went to different high schools and I went to his high school graduation party. I put on my cutest black dress, made damn sure I looked like a million bucks, and all the $#%#% girls at his high school thought they had missed something in him and began flirting like mad. My poor nice guy crumbled under all the female attention and shortly thereafter I was dumped. The only comfort I had from that whole mess is that a year later he would explain what happened and apologize and admit he never should've let his head be turned.
That was the beginning of my nice guy curse - gentle, shy quiet men who are sometimes akward are always charming in my eyes. I don't care about superficial imperfections but nice guys often don't want to have anything to do with me.
I have been chasing the same kinds of guys since high schools and what happens - its the users out there that are chasing me. I admit that I have stupidly allowed myself to be caught sometimes but what I want has never changed.
Originally Posted by
Prodigal
If your friends ARE attracted to these nice guys... well, I don't know what to say. Maybe just wait and they'll come?
Please Prodigal, give me some better advice here! I've been waiting and he still hasn't come yet.
I think the mistake a lot of us make is thinking the state-appointed shrink is our friend. - Jack Handy