I am in Love, but...

[PoleGuru]

I am 43, and divorced. My Girlfriend is 42 and almost divorced. We have amazing chemistry. She feels so strongly about me I know as she has told me she loves me. The situation is this; we broke up and she has let me know she wants me, but needs some time to be herself. I understand that, and I will give her the time and space she needs. We talk on the phone and I text her a Good Morning and Good Night every night. This is fine with her and she told me she likes it, it makes me feel awesome as well. I do not want to smother her, and I accept the time she needs, but I would like some advice from other women who may have gone through something similar. I know she has been going through some issues with her Ex (he cheated on her, selling the house, etc...) and I have all the compassion in the World for her. I have planned on a very special Dinner with her. I am having a Limo pick her up, I am cooking, and I got a canopy, candles, a whole dancefloor setup, music, etc... Am I crazy for these things or am I just doing what I can with the time she gives me to continue the romance? My feeling is that if I love her, I have to wait, listen to her and decide how long I can wait.

[Yggdrasil]

I am 43, and divorced. My Girlfriend is 42 and almost divorced.

One red flag there: she's ALMOST divorced. How long has she been separated? Carefull for a rebound on her end.

People need time after a breakup to get their lifes in shape and get over the previous relation. Hopping into another one after a breakup is called a rebound (I am quite sure you're familiar with that term).

Just be aware, that's all I am suggesting.

Good luck.

[vashti]

Is that really the kind of date a 42 year old woman expects? It seems rather ..... over the top.

I think you are trying too hard. Women generally don't like it. Is this your way of applying pressure?

[Yggdrasil]

I think you are trying too hard. Women generally don't like it. Is this your way of applying pressure?

Good point, comes over pushy and needy. Stuff like this may flatter her at first, but may push her away in the long run.

I think to many people are influenced by Hollywood and romance novels.

[Indignant]

wanna try someone younger? how does 31 sound?