Age Difference - Can this work?

[luvsocal]

Ladies/Girls,

I am 47, met an unbelievable girl who is 30. I don't look 47, she doesn't look and act 30. We started hanging out, attraction took over and by the time we talked age we were both surprised at the difference. So, we have been going out for sometime now and I just wondered if these relationships ever really can work where age is spread like this?

Everything is perfect in the relationship. Both our careers are great...interests, everything. Both of us have been married before.


Now that a few months have gone by and things are getting more serious...I have a few questions. Why would a very attractive 30 year old not want to date/be married to someone closer to her own age? (Don't beat me with a stick, but the thought has crossed my mind). What happens when she's 60 and I'm 76?

Just wondering? Any thoughts?

Thanks in advance.

[Gribble]

I don't think that gap is so bad assuming you're both roughly of equal maturity. Go for it. Congratulations on bagging such a younger chick. She probably wants a mature, successful man. She's sick of horny little boys.

And honestly, I don't see a huge difference even between 60 and 76. It's all good.

[Sonrisa]

Ladies/Girls,

I am 47, met an unbelievable girl who is 30. I don't look 47, she doesn't look and act 30. We started hanging out, attraction took over and by the time we talked age we were both surprised at the difference. So, we have been going out for sometime now and I just wondered if these relationships ever really can work where age is spread like this?

Everything is perfect in the relationship. Both our careers are great...interests, everything. Both of us have been married before.


Now that a few months have gone by and things are getting more serious...I have a few questions. Why would a very attractive 30 year old not want to date/be married to someone closer to her own age? (Don't beat me with a stick, but the thought has crossed my mind). What happens when she's 60 and I'm 76?

Just wondering? Any thoughts?

Thanks in advance.

by the time she 40 and you're 57, sex would be out of the question, which would put you in the same position.

[luvsocal]

Thanks for the comments. As far as bagging...that wasn't what it was about. And I have dated a bunch of 40 years olds...sex is very much in play. I hope the heck it wouldn't be dead. I know what you are referring to, which is that everyone is tired of doing (or another word) someone, but god I hope not be that cynical.

[alex12345]

Age is just a number. SOMETIMES!

[Tedel]

mm... My opinion is that it can work. Actually when she's 60 sex would be almost not important at all.

EDIT: I once read that the best idea was to marry someone you could talk and get along well with. When bodies fade out, this will be the most important thing.

[vashti]

I think age gaps become more pronounced as people age. Sure, once both parties are mature adults, age may be just a number, but when the older person's health starts to fail, it is generally a fast, downhill slide, and I think people generally grossly underestimate the impact this has on the younger person.

[starbuck]

They can work, but there's always a risk the older person takes that the younger person might leave to find someone more similar in age. If you understand that risk, and are well-prepared for it emotionally, then I say go for it.

[happy75216]

as you said she doesn't act her age usually women that think older want older men someone thats closer to her level and that seems to be you mr.lucky

[starbuck]

by the time she 40 and you're 57, sex would be out of the question, which would put you in the same position.

Why would sex be out of the question at these ages? Unless there's impotence or other health problem, couples can go on having sex well into their 70's and 80's. Article here:

"Sexed up seniors do it more than you think"
[url]http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20395061/[/url]

If I were him, I'd be more worried about his girlfriend leaving him for a younger man than lack of sex.

[8packChris]

Ladies/Girls,

I am 47, met an unbelievable girl who is 30. I don't look 47, she doesn't look and act 30. We started hanging out, attraction took over and by the time we talked age we were both surprised at the difference. So, we have been going out for sometime now and I just wondered if these relationships ever really can work where age is spread like this?

Everything is perfect in the relationship. Both our careers are great...interests, everything. Both of us have been married before.


Now that a few months have gone by and things are getting more serious...I have a few questions. Why would a very attractive 30 year old not want to date/be married to someone closer to her own age? (Don't beat me with a stick, but the thought has crossed my mind). What happens when she's 60 and I'm 76?

Just wondering? Any thoughts?

Thanks in advance.

Anything can workout, I don't see 17 years being that big of a difference.. at all. Go for it and see what happens? Why worry about the future.. it will only interrupt the present.

If you are having fun and she is having fun and its attraction.. then whats the problem?

[IndiReloaded]

Ladies/Girls,

I am 47, met an unbelievable girl who is 30. I don't look 47, she doesn't look and act 30.

LOL, I was wondering what this fellow means by 'acting 30'. When I was that age, I was married w/a child, had finished my professional degree & was working, had the house, car, boat, pet, retirement investments all squared away.

What does a 30 year old usually act like? Just curious.

[misombra]

i would like to know as well.

[Petit Papillon]

LOL, I was wondering what this fellow means by 'acting 30'. When I was that age, I was married w/a child, had finished my professional degree & was working, had the house, car, boat, pet, retirement investments all squared away.

What does a 30 year old usually act like? Just curious.

i would like to know as well.

I tell You girls. 30's who aren't sitting at home,with families,jobs etc etc.
They are partying,travelling,changing partners each day I think he was thinking about this kind of 30yo women that are so common. And that his gf is different then them so she has job,money,don't do wild parties etc

[luvsocal]

hey...totally fair question about what I meant. Actually, upon reflection...it's a stupid comment. She's awesome and her values are more aligned with girls I usually meet who are closer to my age. And I know plenty of my friends who act like two year olds.

So...keep on hacking on the comment...I would.