Sex as a process

[Paul Lasaro]

A sex can be looked at differently. Just beginning with the same name. A sex is also activities performed by people being engaged in a process of sex. It would sound better – an old hippies’ slogan „Make love”. These words sound more delicate. Anyway, it is a matter of everybody’s taste how to call this process. A sex or making love are not at all only names. This time we could think how simple or complicated this activity is? Many who are not beginners might say that there is nothing complicated in it ....

For many it might seem so simple as to go and buy some bread in a nearest shop. Nevertheless, not everything is so simple as it seems. If we perceive love making as an everyday activity then after some time routine creeps up and then joy of it is less than going after some bread to a shop. The experience is useful but the routine causes boredom. So it could be accepted that love making should be tried to be more creative every time we do it. Even it is just a spontaneous burst of passion at least half a minute of reflections will be useful how to add to this process something novel, something that does not have tatty experience, some small but not experienced nuances. If you start then combine a desire with inspiration and imagination. It will help to turn a simple sex into the love making process worth an artwork.

Love making also requires a delicate art of observation, like a sensitive sensor you have to feel your and your partner’s mood. The high point of flying will not be reached if one desires the other right in the middle of the forest, under the wet tree but the other dreams about soft feather-beds in a warm house. Or thinks about anything except love making. You can try to persuade the other but you can also think how to inspire, tempt the other one. To be able to unite the dreams of both. It’s a time when a perception of a refined sensor is needed. You must choose the right form of speech and time. If your offer will be, for example,- **** me here!, then answer can be – **** off!! At the same time it can be completely different – unbutton your pants! Everything depends on how precisely you have felt your partner’s mood or have created an atmosphere. It’s possible that sometimes no words are needed but some other time sweetly romantic verses long like a freight might come in handy. You have to catch the moment when the words are unnecessary and the sweetest poetry of the whole world mixed with some spicy and seductive peppers are needed.

Each lover also needs to be endued with observation skills like a radio-locator. It has to be noticed what is going on in neighborhood. Otherwise, for example, if it happens in the forest the process of love making can accidentally turn into a „tattoo’ for the scouts who were picking cones near by. For somebody it might seem exciting but you can not be sure whether your beloved will be able to appreciate the scouts’ comments about her naked backside.

Besides, you must be able to calculate precisely the time. For example, you have to foresee how long the granny of your sweet-heart will stay at work and does she come home by tram or by Porsche. If she comes too early – at the hottest moment, then you might hear her comments about the socks in her candy punnet or a bra hanging on an exclusive chandelier. It doesn’t sound sexually enough.

Very important but small matter and it is not at all small – a condom. If the other person expects it – it’s a request that can’t be discussed. If because of lack of condom you get a turn-down, blame yourself! Love making is not a travelling by tram without a ticket where you can try to arrange something with a conductor or just pay a fine. Still remember that a condom should be ready as a Walther handgun in James Bond hands – it must come out of the blue, at the right time, ready for work and protection. Don’t leave them in a big packing, they might be packed so tight as it has been done by a retired welder.

It is very precise to compare love making with dancing. Not in vain women seem to evaluate men’s skills in bed according to their dancing skills. You must choose the right dance of the right time – when a waltz is needed, when a Charleston and when the dance „of little birds’. About hundred years ago it was really popular. There are moments just for lambada time. There was a such one – extraordinarily sexual! A lot of possibilities but you have to choose the most suitable.

When you have come to "dancing" you have to feel the partner’s rhythm, adjust yourself to it, have a feeling who of you both can lead the dance better. Here lies a small difference comparing with a dance hall where the dance is usually led by a man. In bed also a woman could wish to do it or change the roles time by time. It’s perfect if you can agree on it without any long discussions feeling the right direction.

Also here skills of careful observer can come in useful, you have to know the wishes of the other person, range of feelings, a degree of willingness and a lot of other indicators. It is important to know when the time is to "go in" and when to wait better, hold back or play a little.The better your observation skills, the bigger chances reach the tops. Only remember – you can’t turn into a pilot of a fast warplane who hecticly compresses joystick following with salient eyes the indicators on the air computer and getting in touch with a central office trying to find the right moment for using up the winged rockets. Most likely it won’t work. If only you can carefully listen to your feelings and try to read your sweet-heart’s face. Especially, if her eyes are lightly closed.

Does it sound complicate? Big experts may say – it’s not so. Perhaps. There is nothing for it but I wish everybody to be able to combine desire with an inspiration and flight of fancy.

Have a nice day and be careful,

Paul Lasaro

[Gigabitch]

Paul, I want you to explore some other threads and give some people some relationship advice today.

LoveForum is not your personal blog.

[Paul Lasaro]

Ohh, give me a minute!

[Gigabitch]

Seriously, you've posted something like 10,000 words over the last few weeks and not once have you given anyone else any attention. Get out there and spread those opinions around!