Was planning/meeting meet this guy after work, but then he...?

[Miss_Navi]

There is this guy at work who I like, I've spoken to him and he also likes me, however it is still early days. So today, I asked him if he would like to go to the pub after work, and he sounded keen however he had a lads movie night to go to later, so he said he will see.

Well since then and after work, he just said one line to me which was "I got soaked!" because he was having a water fight with some others, and he went into the changing rooms. Then I didn't speak to him once, I saw him in the locker room chatting to someone, he saw me and I started moving towards him but he had disappeared by the time I got there and looking around I saw him walking quite briskly back out of the building. I followed him and he continued to walk without saying anything back to me. At this point I was feeling very frustrated and slightly angry because he was acting like he couldn't take me due to the fact we would now be alone together out of work.
All he did when he did eventually notice me (while talking to someone else) was wave at me from a distance. I was just standing there watching him thinking what the hell are you doing arn't you even going to give me an answer to what is going on tonight??

So I just left to my car, and as I was driving out of the car park I passed him walking towards his bus station, and he waved and said "bye (my name)".

So now I am incredibly confused and I don't think he is work tomorrow. Do you think he is just a looser and I should forget about him? Should I say what I think to his face or what?

[Doc Durian]

Ignore him. Treat him no differently than any other coworker. If he initiates conversation about it, then so be it.

But don't waste your time.

[ecojeanne]

lol he's playin hard to get the wrong way and also i thought it was funny the way you kept following him and he kept trying to run away...saddo

[Yggdrasil]

I'd say don't chase him. He's either not interested in you and scared to tell you, or he's playing games and that's just plain dumb.

If someone can't be upfront with you now, how is that someone going to be weeks, months, years down a relation?

[IndiReloaded]

Sounds to me like your urgency isn't his urgency. Nothing wrong with that. He didn't promise anything. Relax and go with the flow.

[hermes3]

If he's like that now...he is likely to play those same games if you were to get into a realationship with him. Remember how you felt today. Do you want to feel like that in the future?

[IndiReloaded]

'Games' is when someone says one thing but does something else, deliberately.

This guy was upfront w/her that he already had plans with his mates. What do you gals expect? He drop his friends just b/c *she* doesn't have plans that night? But, of course, everything has to be done on the woman's schedule.

The OP, instead of getting angry (solely due to her own expectations, not his problem) could have simply asked this guy if mbe they should reschedule going out b/c he seemed busy w/his friends. They could then exchange numbers, etc, and go out at a more relaxed time.

Holy neediness. Am I the only one that thinks the fact he doesn't blow his friends off for some chick he barely knows is a *good* thing?

[hermes3]

Well the guy is obviously not too interested. He did say he had something going on with his lads, but it also sounded like he was going to reconfirm with her. It doesn't take much to do just that. Instead he chose to take flight and avoid her. Maybe not games...but avoiding for sure. I think Miss_navi should take that as a sign.

[Gigabitch]

Don't date coworkers. Just don't.