My friend has a bf who says he has a first degree in Medicine but would only be qualified with this degree to teach. He however, doesn't want to do that. So rather than going out and seeking a job, he stays at home EVERY DAY and smokes weed, EVERY SINGLE DAY. She doesn't live with him, thank goodness but is becoming quite frustrated with him just leaving his house to go get weed to get high. He claims he's afraid of failure and being a bum, but it seems he's heading in that general direction. I advised her to basically give him an ultimatum, either go out and look for work, or leave his trifling ass. She's confused because she really cares for him. They've been together for about 6 months.
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09-09-09, 12:57 AM #1
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Guy doesn't want to work.....
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09-09-09, 03:09 AM #2
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Ask your friend to send her BF to rehab..
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LOL!!!
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Isn't that going to cost her more money than he's already costing her.
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09-09-09, 03:48 AM #4
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Its only been 6 months, if the ultimatum doesnt work then id get rid. People dont tend to change and smoking weed every single day is quite a habit. In my opinion ...... drugs make people very selfish.
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Speaking as a habitual daily smoker (when I can), he has to choose what's more important to him. Nothing wrong with being selfish, you get what you put in.
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Caring for him doesn't mean they have a mutually loving relationship.
Clearly he doesn't give a shit about what she thinks.
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Unless you smoke yourself, its not fun being with someone who is constantly spackered. I was with a guy who smoked weed everyday, i clearly wasnt priority ....... good rid Originally Posted by Disillusioned
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It's not so much that he smokes that she minds, it's more that he isn't trying to improve himself by working. All he seems to do each and EVERY day is smoke. Therefore whenever she sees him, she has to pay for everything coz he NEVER has any money. Originally Posted by KandiJ
Unless you smoke yourself, its not fun being with someone who is constantly spackered. I was with a guy who smoked weed everyday, i clearly wasnt priority ....... good rid
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I would throw Brad Pitt out for dragging his ass like that. Like Fras said, caring is not guarantee of reciprocal commitment.
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I know guys like this... they are all losers.
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Quick update - she hasn't yet told him, but she wants to break it off and she's stopped calling him and emailing him. Originally Posted by tim2963
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10-09-09, 02:16 AM #12
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I hope she makes a decisive move soon. His lack of motivation might be catching, like a contact high.
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LOL!!!!!!! Originally Posted by Gigabitch
Oh she will.
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11-09-09, 03:11 AM #14
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Well, as I said before, I'm selfish and if it is costing you money then leave him. You can do a little better, can't you?
I will do my best to reply with an educated, humble and honest answer. Ultimately, it is up to you whether you want to listen to my advice or ignore it completely. Sometimes, my advice may be wrong; occasionally, it will be right. Regardless, I want to do my best to give people answers they are seeking.
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erm does he cares about her or just bout weed ???
its a short relationship, 6 months...she should have told him before that its OR HER OR WEED
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