she wants me to become a pastor

[tossip]

we once called off our relation with my mutual partner... if you have looked through my previous topic called " she said "CRUSH" only" you will see what I mean... She went back with me after a few days and said that she will never leave me again because she loved me after all and that I was the only guy that loved her this much and she sees my determination of being with her... I can also see that she is very persistent in talking with me... she doesn't have a cellphone but she tried her best to talk with me everyday by borrowing cellphones from her classmates and even chatting with me in yahoo messenger. It is clear that we were back again... and I was happy at that time. I can also see her determination... She's wants to have a close relation with my family as well.

However... the next problem arises... she wants to become a pastor someday... after graduating from Highschool and college and getting a job for a few more
years then enter Bible College... those are her plans... she planned that by
herself two years ago... actually I also have the opportunity of becoming pastor
as well since we were both official members in the church by now. But what troubles me is that she wants to advance into full ministry someday... and me? I still need to figure that out if I want to be a pastor... because ever since I was a kid, I never really wanted to be a pastor... I don't feel God calling me to become a pastor... I talked to her with this many times now saying that I don't feel God's calling about me going into full ministry... Me and her were deeply hurt with what we revealed for ourselves. I am already in part time ministry since I am the youth music leader of the church and that I hold responsible for the Praise and Worship team but I don't have plans of going into full ministry. Ever since I told her those things, she told me that she also wants me to go to Bible College and that she believes that I have the calling of becoming one. She prayed REAL HARD that she will go with Bible College with me and that I will soon have that calling. I asked my other church members if they sensed me if I have one and they were silent about it. I asked my Mom and Dad about it and said that "It's really up to me" If I have the desire of becoming a pastor. I know it's not good to go to Bible College just because of my partner... I got to have the desire of becoming one... I also prayed REAL hard that someday God would reveal to me if I really had the call. But it just doesn't work... I kept praying but I can't feel it.

The problem is actually me this time. She has already set her goal. Both of us can't study very well with what we just revealed to ourselves. and it's
still a long way to go for us.

[Gigabitch]

Please explain to her that you will never be able to hear God calling you if she keeps shouting at you about what SHE thinks you should do.

I'm sure your family were all thinking, "Who does she think she is?" when they were silent.

[carl1222]

I agree with Giga. If God calls you to spread his word, then follow it in the manner He calls you. But I'm fairly confident that your girlfriend is NOT God, so take her "calling" with a huge grain of salt. You might remind her that it's not very "pastorly" of her to pretend she knows what God wants from you! God can speak for Himself.

Carl.

[tossip]

She's still actually 15 years old and is in the process of figuring things out so I think I can forgive her for saying that... The only ones who know that were mutually related is my parents, our pastor, and her mother. Her dad is really strict in relationships. I can actually see it in her even when the time when I wasn't mutually related with her. She's has now taught for the first time in Sunday School and is now part of our praise and worship team. She's very strange when she's inlove... she had a crush on someone before and she was real DIE HARD on that boy. I am actually like that as well and that's why we get along with each other very well.

My mother once said that, it is actually Sin for even stopping someone from becoming pastor... since I had stopped them from becoming God's soon to be full time servants. But she once said... "Okay... it feels like I don't want to become a pastor because you're not going to Bible College with me... But I REALLY want to go to Bible College with you! Because you're the only person that I will ever love like this!" (Yeah... she's still a kid right?).

[girl68]

HAHAHAAHAHAHAAHA 15 years old. Please. She's a little girl. This is the prime reason I dislike religion (and I DO believe in all that jazz). If someone wants to believe all you *should* do is present the option of it and sit back. If they choose to follow they will follow if they choose not to, leave them alone. This is no different than... "come on.... take a sip of beer" "oh you sissy... it's JUST marijuana". Peer pressure at it's BEST.

Sorry dude, but err... time to get a head of your own.

[carl1222]

What do you mean when you say "mutually related"? Is your situation with this girl made even more complicated by polygamy?

Carl.

[tossip]

@ Carl: It means that we love each other but we're not in a relationship yet. But the way we act is like we really are in a bf/gf relationship only that we do it in secret... (yahoo chat, text messages and talk to each other when it's just the two of us. And telling how much we love each other.)... If only her dad was okay with it, then I'd already have courted her a very long time ago.

Even if we're still open on having a relationship with somebody else, we still promised each other that we'll never find someone else...

[Junket]

She sounds like another wacko that uses God as justification for her selfishness.

She's clearly young and naive.

And a self centered little cunt.

[vashti]

jeezus, fras. She's just a kid.

[tossip]

she's not a wacko... she's totally sane... she cares for me, she cares for her family and friends... and especially me. you can see in her that she is truly christian... I have already known her for 3 years now... we're both close even when we didn't love each other in the past.

Although I agree that she is young and naive but she's never self centered. She cares for the people around her and is willing to help anybody when they are in need. She's doing her best at being righteous.

I would NEVER call the girl I love as a cunt... She has good reputation and is God fearing.

The problem is still there... she has a desire of being a pastor but doesn't like going to Bible College without me. And I currently don't have the desire of becoming one.