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Thread: How do you keep the attention of a large group of girls?

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    How do you keep the attention of a large group of girls?

    I've noticed that girls rarely, if ever, are out alone. They go out in twos, usually threes, and sometimes more.

    I have little problem approaching girls. I may have a shyness-attack from time to time, but usually, I can boldly approach a strange girl and start talking to her.

    But it's so hard to keep their interest and attention when they're in groups. I noticed as soon as you start talking to one girl, the other girl will start to appear bored or annoyed (either because she's jealous that no guy is talking to her or angry that you're stealing her friend away from her.)

    So I continue the conversation facing the annoyed girl's direction, but it's so hard to keep everyone interested and in the loop.

    And if new girls join the group midway, it's not like you can restart allover again.

    Like the other day, I was at a bar and I approached a 2 girls. I was asking for movie suggestions, where they worked, if any funny characters work or shop there, some stories from my job. I was holding their interest and attention for a good 2 or 3 minutes, until 3 of their other girlfriends came. I introduced myself to them but they all started having their own conversation outside of any topic I was talking about; nothing I could relate to or even hear. They quickly formed a circle and I got squeezed out.

    This isn't the first time this has happened to me.

    So what can I do? My male friends are of no help; they've proven completely unable/unwilling to bust out of their shells in social environments.

    How does a guy keep the attention of a group of girls?
    Last edited by Cyanosphere; 14-09-09 at 12:08 PM.

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    Bring along a couple of friends so they can keep the other girls occupied
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    I did bring my guy friends, but like I said they're of no help. I told them before hand to come in and help me out once I've broken the ice, but they just stood by and watched from across the bar.

    What's worse, those a-holes had the audacity to laugh and make fun of me for getting rejected when I walked back. At least I tried and lasted a good 5 minutes. They didn't even try! And I'm sure if they did, they would have lasted about 5 seconds. That quickly shut them up.

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    it's tough but it can be done. You have to engage the group - not just isolate a target and talk to her. Realize that you control the conversation. After you meet one of the girls, wait to see if she introduces you to her friends. If she doesn't, then neg her in front of her friends in a playful way: "hi, your friend is being rude. So I'll introduce myself instead. I'm __" Ask them how they know each other. Girls love to talk. So let them share their thoughts, opinions, and stories with you. This way, they all feel like they are a part of the conversation.

    as far as other girls joining the group and leaving you out, the best thing to do in that situation is call out their behavior in a cocky/funny way. For example, you could say to them "hey, how about you not be antisocial?" You have a pair of balls. So use them. If you let 120 lbs girls intimidate you, then why should any girl want to talk to you? Start acting more confident and not giving a shit what people say, and you'll pleasantly surprised at the results. Oh yeah, and f*ck your friends for putting you down for doing what they are too pussy to do.

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    I like what Neo said, you got to get them all talking. As the guy approaching the girls, the burden is on you to lead the conversation, but you should try and make it so they are talking more then you are. Once you get past the initial minute or two, try and keep your comments short and sweet, and allow them to elaborate a little more then yourself.. be the conversation manager as opposed to doing all the talking.

    But in reality what you really need is a wingman, that would help you out tons. The wingman technique works, tried, tested an true.

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