"Punishing" Your Ex.

[Graham Berkeley]

Have any of you ladies "Punished" your ex boyfriend after he left you even though he had legitimate reasons? I mean acted like an out of control bitch, said anything you could to hurt him, did anything to hurt him?

Someone said this behavior is a woman trying to "punish" her Ex.

WHY would a woman want to punish an Ex? Is it her way of saying "I didn't want you to leave and now I want to show you how stupid you were for doing so"?

[girl68]

No, I'm not a crazy psycho bitch.

Thankfully I've never dated a psycho loser. I like to think I can pick them better- so far.

[Graham Berkeley]

So a psycho bitch would "punish" her ex if she thinks hes a "psycho loser"?

[Enigmos]

no, not punished. i prefer to just walk away.

[Gigabitch]

Graham, your ex is unbalanced.

She reminds me of my brother's soon-to-be-ex-wife. Their divorce is hideously ugly because she's trying to punish him for every bad feeling that wells up inside her. She never learned appropriate emotional boundaries (i.e. if she's hurting, everyone has to hurt with her). Because he left her, she feels terrible and she's raging like a hurricane, destroying everything in her path. For instance, she's now threatening to take his dog to the pound. Shit like that.

Your ex has some pretty severe emotional problems, Graham. I think she needs professional help. This isn't simply because she's Italian or because she has an artistic temperament. It's because she's crazy.

What's she doing now?

[girl68]

So a psycho bitch would "punish" her ex if she thinks hes a "psycho loser"?

No a psycho bitch will punish anyone because she is a psycho.

[Graham Berkeley]

Thanks for the advice Giga but I'm actually curious about this topic. Not really related to the Ex GF.

[Gigabitch]

For the record, I've punished the hell out of various boyfriends, but never an ex.

[Graham Berkeley]

How id you punish them and why?

[Gigabitch]

A boyfriend didn't show enough enthusiasm for me at first, couldn't decide if he wanted me or my friend, etc. so I wrapped him around my finger and tortured him emotionally for years. I acted really fickle and would go out of my way to talk to guys I knew he was threatened by. I didn't do anything that could be constituted as an act of aggression. It was all passive-aggressive.

There was another that I simply wouldn't have sex with because he continued a "friendship" with someone who had been his FWB. I slept with him a couple of times and then cut him off. He would get all torqued up about it and I would break up with him. Why he kept crawling back, I can't imagine. Must have liked being treated like crap. Oh, this is the same guy who wrote me a heartfelt love letter and I marked up all of the grammatical errors in red pen and sent it back to him.

[Graham Berkeley]

HAha.

So when you were punishing them it was your way of telling them something was jacked up and needed to change. Treating them like crap was suppose to b the motivation to change.

Did you ever flat out tell them what they were doing wrong?