Girlfriend keeps bringing up the past

[carnifex]

Hey yall,

Me and my girl are very open with eachother and comfortable with are sexuality; however, she has taken it a bit too far. Before we were dating she made a private porn video with some dude. I'm not a jealous man, and I could care less. However, about a month ago she was checking her email, and the guy sent it to her. I was there when she got it, she told me and told me she wanted to watch it.(she has a fetish of watching herself). I don't care about the past but I felt there was no need for her to tell me about it. I through a big fit, and made it clear. Two weeks later the subject came up again, and I got pissed, and really made it clear. Then, a few nights ago, we were talking, and she bring it up again " oh that guy sent me 5 more new videos". To say I was pissed is an understatement. She trys to say "oh I just wanna be honest about everything with you". However, there are other things she should have been honest about (in the present), and I see no reason to talk about the past.

What do you guys think? Should I just break up with her? Make her insanely jealous(this is easy to do, but I ussually avoid hurting her)?

[girl68]

You should have said in response to "oh I just want to be honest with you", "I DO NOT ever want to hear about your past vids, I do not want to know what he sent you or when, I never want to know your desire to watch it, or the fact that you have or what you thought of it, I hope now that is perfectly clear."

Have you considered YOU TWO making a video together? She gets off watching herself right?

[Gigabitch]

Have you considered YOU TWO making a video together? She gets off watching herself right?

That's a fine idea.

[carnifex]

You should have said in response to "oh I just want to be honest with you", "I DO NOT ever want to hear about your past vids, I do not want to know what he sent you or when, I never want to know your desire to watch it, or the fact that you have or what you thought of it, I hope now that is perfectly clear."

Have you considered YOU TWO making a video together? She gets off watching herself right?

Well its the third time I did say this. Once, ok I told her how I feel. Second time I told her to STF up. Third time I went into phsyco mode, and said to her
"So you want to be honest, ok I'll be honest, I fantasize about my EX while your blowing me" . Even though I have like once or twice, I was really just exagerating to wound her. It worked all to well cause she an insanely jealous girl. For example: I have met her ex, she has hung out with him once or twice which is fine I got no reason to be jealous at all. But on the flipside. My best friend is still friends with my ex, and one night me and him hung out with her. I told my GF of course. At first she acts all cool, later that night she gets drunk and pissed, tells me she just saw 2 guys she slept with, and tried to rub it in.

It's really getting to the point where, I wanna just **** with her head for retribution. But I know its immature, and will only cause problems.

Yes we do want to make a movie, just haven't got around to it.

[Gigabitch]

Yuck. What a ****ed up relationship.

[girl68]

Agreed. ^

Though, if you're down to end in a breakup... have some fun.

[davidtorres]

Hey yall,

Me and my girl are very open with eachother and comfortable with are sexuality; however, she has taken it a bit too far. Before we were dating she made a private porn video with some dude. I'm not a jealous man, and I could care less. However, about a month ago she was checking her email, and the guy sent it to her. I was there when she got it, she told me and told me she wanted to watch it.(she has a fetish of watching herself). I don't care about the past but I felt there was no need for her to tell me about it. I through a big fit, and made it clear. Two weeks later the subject came up again, and I got pissed, and really made it clear. Then, a few nights ago, we were talking, and she bring it up again " oh that guy sent me 5 more new videos". To say I was pissed is an understatement. She trys to say "oh I just wanna be honest about everything with you". However, there are other things she should have been honest about (in the present), and I see no reason to talk about the past.

What do you guys think? Should I just break up with her? Make her insanely jealous(this is easy to do, but I ussually avoid hurting her)?

Why dont you just make a vid with her?

[bluesummer]

God, it sounds like the two of you are out to cause each other more hurt than happiness.

What you're doing to each other, the whole 'let's make the other person jealous' thing, is unhealthy and immature. Stop it or break up.

[carnifex]

God, it sounds like the two of you are out to cause each other more hurt than happiness.

What you're doing to each other, the whole 'let's make the other person jealous' thing, is unhealthy and immature. Stop it or break up.

I know your right. Besides this occasional nonsense, we have a great relationship. Both of us need to chill.