Wtf?

[Neena]

He said he loved me while we were together, no matter if he did or not, after we broke up, every effort of mine to try to talk to him , clear some things or tell him something, he acts like he is busy and like he doesnt want to talk.
On the other hand, he replies to my texts and emails.

[Primo]

Yes it's odd that he'll text and write, but not talk. Can you give a little more background Neena?

[Neena]

The background is that we werent too much time together but we spent all days planning the future and it wAS on his initiative mostly. He acted like he is really in love with me and although some people told me he had hurt his ex's in the past I somehow started trusted him.
He was too weird with chosing places where we gonna live and stuff, texting me at night saying sorry if I am mad and I werent, or texting me he cant sleep cause I am not there.
And I loved him too, I thought thats it-love, but all the sudden he decided he needs a break and it was obvious its a wish for break up from him.
We broke up but decided maybe it wasnt love or whatever and said we gonna stay friends and every effort I made to try to speak with him was assking him if he is ok or normal talks cause I was somehow addicted to him as I thought he is addicted on me.
And when I sent him email or text he replies, but when I try to talk to him on Skype or msn he acts like he is too busy and acts like I would act when a person I hate or dislike try to talks to me.
I realise he might not loved me at all, but his plans and the way he acted talking about us were like a movie love.I never had it before.

[Petit Papillon]

This is how asshole looks like.

[Primo]

Settle down PP

Is he saying he wants you back when he writes? You didn't say how long you've been friends, err I mean broken up for...but maybe he's living with someone else now or she's with him all the time, which is why he won't talk or chat. Is that a possibility?

Either way something's not right and it doesn't sound good as far as anything future.

[Neena]

He never said he wants me back.
I told him I dont want him either.
He only said if we are single in 5 years we will do the things we planned, which makes him a big d**k , like I will stay single and wait him.
I just wanted a normal contact from time to time.
And as I know he is not dating anyone, but I believe the reason for a breakup is other girl. I don't care anymore.

[qwertz]

if you didnt care you wouldnt be writing on here

[Neena]

if you didnt care you wouldnt be writing on here

I care if he hates me or not, not who is he seeing.
And if you ever loved someone you will care for them forever.

[Petit Papillon]

I care if he hates me or not, not who is he seeing.
And if you ever loved someone you will care for them forever.

Oh for real? then I'm relieved,cause it means I didn't love m asshole ex like I thought , ouuuff Because I don't give a crap about him.

[girl68]

This is why we always advise NC.

All these problems could have been avoided if you just got over him without speaking to him.

[Bumble_bee]

seems he doesn't want to talk to you 'live', with skype and msn, you could easily put him in the spot perhaps, as for texting and emailing, he probably feels more comfortable with this because he can ponder his reply a little more.

if you need answers stop worrying about what medium your using, get your answers and either work on them together or move on. Best wishes

[Neena]

Thanks.
All of you.

[Neena]

All these problems could have been avoided if you just got over him without speaking to him.

I felt too weak to do it. I dislike myself for it, but I cant do nothing better than that.

[Illusional]

just erase his number and forget about him. poof, then your problem is solved, any other questions?

raverboy

[Neena]

hahahaah.
poof? that easy?
lol