Girlfriend going away to college

[Whitey]

My girlfriend and I are both seniors in high school and have been dating for just shy of two years. I love her to pieces, she's the most important thing in my life and I think she's the sweetest most amazing girl I've ever met. Two years is an eternity in the fickle world of high school relationships, and we've made it this long for a reason. We've never even had a real fight, we're totally completely happy together all the time and we're crazy in love. Problem is she's going off to college at the end of the semester and she's made it clear to me that she isn't planning on staying with me when she leaves and I can't understand why. Is it selfish to ask her to at least give it a chance? Every time I ask her about it she starts to cry and tells me she doesn't want to talk about it. I can't lose her, she's my love, my life, and my other half. I'm empty without her and the thought of losing her makes me feel sick. I feel selfish for wanting to keep her to myself but I can't help it I love her!! I just need to know if I'm right or wrong in wanting to stay with her.

[Konsig]

I just need to know if I'm right or wrong in wanting to stay with her.

You're not wrong.

But... a lot of people break up when one or both of them goes to college. Offcourse, planning to break up because you're going to college is still something different. Do you know one of her friends you could ask for more insights about why she feels she needs to break up?

[Whitey]

She doesn't talk to her friends about our relationship.. so no :/

[Whitey]

I just don't understand why she won't even give it a chance. I love her to death and I know she loves me.

[TheWizard]

I was in this exact position at the end of highschool. We both agreed it would be better to move on, because let's face it... college is college. You're going to meet new awesome girls, and she is going to meet new awesome guys.

Don't get hung up on it, it's a part of life that is an important lesson. Sorry to be cold - you could talk to her at least but generally speaking I think she's already come to this conclusion and you are better to start moving away from it yourself and look to the future. You don't want to take this with you throughout college and miss out on some of the fun!

For the record this scenario was my first real relationship, and it took me awhile to get over but I'm a better man for it. There is light at the end of the tunnel my friend.

[Peter Pry]

High school relationships don't survive 37 seconds of college. You are children now; next year you will be adults. Today you are slaves; tomorrow you will be free. Freedom is an important experience. College is an important experience. College is for opening up, for exploring, for experimenting, for finding yourself. She can't be free to explore and experiment with you in tow. The same goes for you. This relationship was practice. A year from now, both of you will be entirely different people, and as such, probably no longer right for each other anyway.

Oh, and by the way, if she's not telling her friends about your 2-year long relationship, then she doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her now, let alone next year. You're going to have to learn the hard lesson of losing a love.