Need a little help

[GreatMonkey]

Well, how should I put this, hmmmm. Well, me and this girl, we went to school together about 4 years ago. And back then something attracted me to her, but it wasn't nothing major or anything. So I never really did anything about. But after I graduated, we barely talked and whatnot. But when we did see each other, which was probably once a month or so. We would talk for a few mins. But I still had this feeling for her. So, in Oct of 09, I found out where she worked. Which is where I went to eat lunch all the time. But not at the same place. As it was a mall. So back in Oct, she was on her break and sat down with her and talked. I asked what she was do that night, and wanted to see she wanted to hang out.

So after that, every 3rd to 4th day, we would hang out. We did this all of Oct and Nov. But then I started to get that feeling back, that I had back when we went to high school. But Dec came and we hung out maybe 3 times. That was it. But the less I saw her, this feeling just kept getting stronger. And then before I knew it, I wanted to ask her out. But when it comes to this i'm very shy. And I mean shy. I turn beet red, and walk away.

Now the last week, we been hanging out every day, and she keeps on saying thats she single and that she's not special to have a relationship and whatnot. I wanted to say, thats not true. If your not special, why would someone like me ask you out just now. The words were there but wouldn't come out. Also, whenever she sees me, don't matter where, she always comes up behind me and pokes both of my sides. So I don't know if she's tring to tell me something or not. I'm no good with this kinda stuff. I've only had 1 GF in my life. And that was 6 years ago. And i'm 24. Yeah. I know.

So the thing I need help with is, how do approach her and ask her out. My main problem is, I turn beet red if I tried asking her face to face. So, I know this probably isn't the best way to do this, but I was thinking about sending her one of those e-cards, and telling her that way. Like I said probably not the best way. Or another way I was thinking was, telling her that I wanna talk to her about something, and take her out to eat somewhere and ask her there. But option 2, like I said I turn beet red. But with e-mail, I will ask her if she got it. And go from there. So, I really don't know what to do here. I'm very unexperienced with this stuff.

[FullofSighs]

Well you can grow a pair and ask her out face to face. Or get her number (if you don't have it already) and call/text her asking her if she wants to go out sometime. Then move from there.

i fully understand how it is to be shy, but you have to break that shyness by putting yourself out there. Otherwise you'll end up being alone cuz you'll never be able to ask a girl out. And i don't know of any girl who wants to be with a guy who can barely even talk to one.

P.S. I know how you feel. Im 18 had 1 girlfriend and it lasted 6 months.

[GreatMonkey]

Well, I did it. But never went the way I wanted it to go. Her was response, I want to but if we break up, I don't want it to ruin our friendship.

So yeah. But I feel better that I let it out tho.

[FullofSighs]

Yeah, that happens a lot. Trying asking her out again, and if she says the same thing tell her something like you will still be able to be friends even if you do break up

[GreatMonkey]

Well, I thought i'd give a little update on what has happened. So I took your advice. I explained to her, if we did break up, we can still friends. Still the same response. This was on the 18th.

So after that, she stopped responding to my calls, texts, messages, since the 19th. I don't know why, I never did anything wrong. It was only to see if she wanted to hang out and play some Magic. It's a card game. Magic: The Gathering. Nothing. So I just gave up.

So, I get home from work tonight, check my email and I get an email from her, saying if i'm not doing anything Sunday night around 7, theres something I wanna talk to you about.

So i'm guessing, either it's bad or good lol. Maybe she wanted time to think about it? I'm not too sure.

[1337lizard]

Uh...look I'm not trying to be rude but how were you born with so little game? NEVER ask a girl to play Magic: the Gathering with you again. Yeah, I have roughly 2000 cards and they're well hidden. Look I'll put it this way, what you did was worse than asking her to drink beer and watch the game with your sweaty guy friends. It was a turn off.

Now that that's aside I'll address what she meant when she gave you the 'friendship' excuse. What she meant was, I'm not interested and I'd rather just be friends. Since you didn't take the hint she stopped talking to you.

Don't get your hopes up for tomorrow. If it does go well, then that's great I'm happy that I was wrong So good luck! I know what position you're in since I was the nerdy kid with a stutter who couldn't talk to girls for years. Good times lol

[GreatMonkey]

Actually, we've been playing Magic together for the past 4 years together. She asks me and I ask her. So I have no idea how it's a turn off. I guess different things for different folks.